Updated: Dec. 18, 2015
Originally Published: March 26, 2015
Observing little Mia as she mimics the stress responses of adults can be amusing and enlightening. She has her own ideas about what triggers stress and how one should react to it. However, in reality, children often struggle to identify the sources of their stress or appropriate ways to manage it. Their developing brains and bodies render them particularly susceptible to the long-term detrimental effects of significant stress.
The term “stress” is frequently associated with negative emotions today, but Dr. Hans Selye originally defined it in 1936 as “the non-specific response of the body to any demand for change.” From this perspective, stress can be seen as a natural and sometimes beneficial reaction to various stimuli. Experiencing mild stressors can be advantageous for children, as it helps them learn to navigate new situations and adapt to unexpected challenges. This type of “positive stress” is temporary, leads to minor physiological changes, and can foster healthy development when managed appropriately.
In contrast, excessive stress—referred to as “toxic stress”—is harmful to a child’s physical and neurological growth. Persistent stressors, such as physical abuse, neglect, or exposure to domestic violence, can increase the risk of numerous problems, as highlighted by the CDC. Chronic stress can weaken the immune system, impair memory, and even reduce cognitive abilities. These negative outcomes stem from the significant neurological disruptions that occur when children are repeatedly exposed to uncontrollable adverse situations.
While parents should not shy away from allowing their children to encounter manageable levels of stress, they must maintain awareness to ensure that only positive stressors are present. More intense stressors, like parental divorce or the loss of a loved one, can still be overcome if a child has the support of a nurturing adult. Research indicates that even toxic stress can be mitigated or reversed through the consistent presence and engagement of a caring caregiver.
The impact of love and a stable environment cannot be overstated. When children are surrounded by supportive adults, they are more likely to develop healthy coping mechanisms for stress. It’s perfectly normal for a child to express distress during routine experiences, such as receiving vaccinations or learning to sleep independently. These reactions are simply manifestations of positive stress, integral to the developmental journey.
As I chuckled at Mia’s theatrical display, I made sure to provide her with a refreshing glass of apple juice during lunch.
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In summary, while stress is a natural part of life, it’s essential for caregivers to distinguish between positive stress and toxic stress. Creating a supportive environment can significantly aid in a child’s ability to cope with life’s challenges effectively.