As I contemplated my father’s birthday, I was struck by the realization that with each year he celebrates, I too am aging. Recently, when I learned his age, I hesitated, remembering that my mother is a year his senior. “So, Mom is…” I began, only to hear my father chuckle, “Thirty-nine!” However, that’s not the case, as I pointed out (to his surprise), I will be turning 39 this summer.
Having left my home state for college when my parents were in their mid-40s, I returned years later with my own young family, only to find them approaching their 60s. It dawned on me how much I had missed in their lives. Over the last decade, they have indeed aged. They now enjoy senior discounts at theme parks and cinemas, and while they remain active and adventurous, they are not the same individuals I once knew.
As a mother, when the school calls, my heart races until I hear that my children are safe. This anxiety is a part of my role, particularly as a mother of boys. But it doesn’t stop there; any time my parents call after 8 p.m., my heart skips a beat as well.
Conversations with friends have shifted; we now discuss not only our children’s lives and travel plans but also our parents’ health concerns—cancer diagnoses, early signs of dementia, and worries about their driving and finances. We delve into health insurance and estate planning. At 38, I find myself losing sleep over the wellbeing of both my children and my parents. It’s a complex position to be in, often leading to anxiety that many of my peers face as well.
When I’m with my parents, I still don’t feel fully grown up; I often revert to feeling like a teenager, even while juggling my own kids who call me “Mommy.” Despite having achieved many milestones—graduating college, building a career, marrying, and raising children—I sense that life is shifting towards a phase characterized by loss. My children will inevitably grow up, my body will transform, and my parents will continue to age. It feels as though the things I cherish most are slipping away, much like grains of sand through my fingers. Is this the onset of a mid-life crisis?
Amidst this turmoil, I recognize my many blessings, including the presence of my own grandparents. However, with each blessing comes the reality of potential loss. As I navigate my parenting journey, often feeling like I’m failing, I carry a heavy burden of worry. I anticipate challenges ahead, waiting for the inevitable heartbreaks.
Music often resonates with my emotions, and my father, a fan of Fleetwood Mac, has left me with lyrics that echo my feelings: “Oh mirror in the sky, what is love? Can the child within my heart rise above?” These words reflect my fears about the changes ahead. Time makes us all bolder; while my children are growing, I too am aging.
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In summary, as I reflect on my father’s birthday, I realize that with every passing year, I too am growing older, navigating the complexities of family, aging, and the inevitable changes that come with time.