As a new school year begins, it’s crucial for parents to engage in discussions with their children about the complexities of bullying. This dialogue is particularly important for families who have children on the autism spectrum, as they may struggle with interpreting social cues and emotions. Understanding what bullying is and reinforcing that they should never become bullies themselves is a foundational step.
The challenge arises when determining when to intervene as a parent. It’s essential to find a balance between allowing children to advocate for themselves and stepping in to protect them from harmful situations. After all, every parent faces this tightrope walk as their children grow.
In previous years, we faced bullying incidents with our son, Ethan, leading to school conferences and discussions about accountability. However, we were aware that this might not be the last occurrence. My partner, Mark, and I frequently debated our approach: Should we report every incident to the school, or should we empower Ethan to handle conflicts independently?
Last year, we encountered a situation where the same child who had bullied Ethan previously targeted him again. Seeing our sensitive child in distress was heart-wrenching. I often pondered how to instill resilience in him without encouraging aggression.
During one conversation, Ethan asked me how he should respond to bullying. I took a moment and shared my strategy for dealing with difficult people in my own life. I told him, “When I encounter grown-up bullies, I remind myself repeatedly that this person is just rude. Life will introduce us to many individuals; while most will be kind, some will be unkind. So, when that kid is mean to you, just tell yourself he is being rude.”
Ethan found comfort in this perspective, and fortunately, he didn’t vocalize his thoughts at school. This approach has surprisingly yielded positive results. Recently, while at a local park, a group of children began to harass our younger son, Liam. Their cruelty escalated to a shocking level, telling him that the world would be better off without him. At that moment, I knew I had to step in—there’s a line that should never be crossed.
After addressing the situation and comforting Liam, I silently thanked the universe that he remained somewhat oblivious to the nuances of unkindness due to his autism. However, I was acutely aware that Ethan understood the severity of the incident. As we left the park, I calmly checked in with him, and he responded, “I’m fine, and I’m glad Liam is okay. Those kids were just rude.”
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In summary, teaching children to handle bullying involves open communication and equipping them with coping strategies. It’s about balancing protection with independence, fostering resilience while ensuring they know they have support in their corner.