John and Jane Thompson, a couple of psychologists, have uncovered various behaviors that can accurately predict the success or failure of a relationship. But what if there were an accessible online quiz for couples—especially those planning to start a family—to evaluate the strength of their bond? Inspired by this concept, I have devised a light-hearted, unscientific marriage assessment.
Marriage Assessment Questions
- When you think of “cleaning the kitchen,” what tasks come to mind? Does it involve wiping down surfaces and mopping the floor? If you agree, +2 points; if not, -2 points.
- Imagine you are working together to put a duvet cover on a duvet. Will one partner simply shove it in and accept the resulting lump, while the other insists on a more complicated method that never seems to work? If this causes you to feel stressed and irritable, -2 points.
- Try saying this phrase: “Sweetheart, did you leave the burner on?” What underlying message does this convey? Is it a genuine inquiry or a veiled criticism? Finding your unique communication style is essential.
- Do you engage in quirky arguments over trivial matters, such as whether couscous is a grain or a tiny piece of rice? If one partner stubbornly defends their view, while the other ignores reason, consider this a red flag.
- Picture a long road trip in a rental car, and you notice an amusing iPhone name that prompts notifications like “connecting to Vag vag.” Will one partner attempt to remove the notification, leading to frustration, or will both choose to laugh it off? If you can agree on this, +5 points.
- As you load your family’s luggage onto a hotel cart, how many times do you comment on how much stuff you have accumulated?
- Is it once, or more?
- How often do you express that the luggage cart should be better designed?
- In a stressful moment, such as when a toddler is ill in the backseat during a winding drive, will you maintain composure, or will you unleash your frustrations on the car’s systems? If you endure without exploding, +4 points; if you lash out, -10.
- How long will you search around a random neighborhood looking for a “healthy” option like Panera before you relent and opt for Cracker Barrel? Set a time limit together.
- During a visit to Cracker Barrel, if your toddler starts to play with an antique lamp, who will intervene to prevent a mishap? Engaging in these little games can strengthen your relationship. +10 points for taking action.
- If your child is having a meltdown in the high chair, and the restraint system is outdated and frustrating, who will keep their cool?
- Finally, do you have opposing views on whether Cracker Barrel is a good dining choice? Compatibility on such matters can be telling.
This light-hearted quiz serves as a fun way to reflect on your partnership. For more insights on relationships and family planning, visit intracervicalinsemination.com for valuable information. Also, Make a Mom provides essential resources related to fertility, while March of Dimes is an excellent guide for those considering fertility treatments and home insemination.
In summary, examining the dynamics of your relationship through humorous scenarios can reveal much about compatibility and communication styles. By discussing these situations, couples can better prepare for the challenges of marriage and parenthood.