I notice you at the café a few tables away. You, perhaps accompanied by your partner or simply enjoying the company of your child, are engaged in a meaningful conversation—something beyond games like Minecraft or Mario Kart. Alternatively, you might be savoring a moment of solitude while your little one is absorbed in their own digital realm.
I want to assure you: I am not here to judge. I am in the same boat as you.
My gaze is not born from superiority; rather, it comes from a place of understanding. I recognize how challenging it can be to carve out even a few precious minutes to connect with another adult. When we finally achieve that, it feels revitalizing—like nourishing a parched sponge. It’s life-affirming, like a jolt of electrolytes for our souls. Sharing stories, listening, and laughing together is what truly enriches our lives.
The Importance of Connection
As parents, those connections are vital. Our routines can become monotonous: rising early, heading to work, returning home drained, and attending to the endless needs of our children. We give baths, prepare meals (a task I’m not particularly skilled at), and listen to tales about characters like Enderman—who I still don’t fully understand. We tuck our children into their cozy beds and love them with all our heart.
Yet, fatigue sets in. We settle in front of the television, scroll through social media, and then drift off to sleep. Another day passes without meaningful adult interaction or without truly connecting with ourselves. Both outward and inward connections are essential—not just important, but critical for leading fulfilling lives.
Embracing Technology for Connection
When those rare opportunities arise to engage in conversation with friends, family, or loved ones, don’t hesitate to utilize technology to keep your child occupied. Their lives shouldn’t solely revolve around screens, and I empathize with the struggle of managing screen time, especially as a parent of a dedicated gamer. However, if a tablet or handheld device allows you to reconnect or enjoy a moment of peace, then embrace it wholeheartedly.
The previous generation may not comprehend your choices. They may express disapproval or lament the use of technology as a means of parenting. While it’s crucial to teach children good manners—like making eye contact and putting devices away during meals—don’t let guilt overshadow your need for personal time. You invest so much in your child’s well-being, and handing over that iPad doesn’t diminish your parenting. In fact, you are rightfully the “parent of the year” for ensuring your child enjoys their dining experience. When you return home, you can engage in activities together, like board games or bike rides.
Shifting Our Mindset
Let’s shift our mindset and recognize that being a successful parent includes enriching our own lives.
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Conclusion
In summary, it’s essential to prioritize both our children and ourselves. By allowing for those moments of connection, we nurture not only our relationships but also our own well-being.