Dear Inexperienced Observer,
As your due date draws near, it’s clear that you’re fixating on a myriad of trivial concerns. I wish you could grasp that the vast majority of what troubles you now will be irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. Your priority should be to rest and recharge, sleeping as much as you can before the little one arrives. This might be your last opportunity for peaceful, uninterrupted slumber for quite some time.
What’s that? You’re struggling to sleep due to discomfort from your pregnancy? Think again. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself awake in the wee hours, possibly covered in baby spit-up, paralyzed with the fear of stirring your little one who has perfected the art of sleeping only when cradled in your arms.
Speaking of unnecessary worries (pun intended), you seem to be preoccupied with the thought of possibly having an accident during delivery. Let me offer you a reality check: when the moment arrives, you won’t care if there’s a mess on the ceiling, as long as the medical team gets that baby out swiftly, faster than a teenager flipping through a fashion catalog.
And that book on natural childbirth you’re engrossed in? It might be time to set it aside and grab a copy of “What Do I Do with This Baby?” because by the time you’re in labor, you’ll be begging for an epidural before you even reach three centimeters. Remember, the delivery is just a day, but parenting is a lifelong journey. Invest your time in learning about child-rearing rather than focusing solely on breathing techniques that may only serve you well for that first post-birth bathroom visit.
You currently hold strong opinions about parenting, but brace yourself for a reality check: you’ll quickly discover that you are navigating uncharted territory. Karma has a way of humbling us. For every judgment you cast on other parents, you’ll face your own share of guilt-ridden thoughts. So go ahead and critique your colleague who leaves her kids at daycare for an extra hour of personal time. In a few months, you’ll be wishing that daycare operated on weekends. And remember the woman you saw in the grocery store whose appearance you criticized? Karma is about to change your appearance in ways you never anticipated.
So indulge in that extra slice of cheesecake while you can still rationalize it. You may think it’s just a baby bump, but let’s be honest, it’s headed straight for your backside. And spoiler alert: you won’t be among the fortunate ones who shed the baby weight through breastfeeding. Instead, you’ll be the mom who sends her child to preschool in mismatched clothes and with remnants of breakfast still on their face, all while you’re wearing an outfit that resembles a nightgown from your grandmother’s closet. The idea of enjoying a shower daily will soon feel as unrealistic as monkeys serving you cocktails on a tropical beach.
After your baby arrives, amidst the chaos of caring for your newborn and the surprising realization of your partner’s shortcomings, you’ll feel overwhelmed. You may find yourself resorting to birth control like it’s candy, desperate to avoid another child. Yet, one evening, fueled by a little too much wine, you may find yourself taking a leap of faith once more.
Through the stretch marks, the spills, and the emotional rollercoaster of postpartum life, there is one thing that will carry you through: a profound love that you can’t even fathom right now.
So, brace yourself for the adventure ahead and try to maintain some semblance of bladder control—this journey is just beginning. It’s time to cast aside any judgment and start supporting fellow mothers because you’re going to need them when you realize that you don’t have all the answers.
Warm regards,
Your Future Self
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Summary
This letter serves as a humorous yet candid reminder for expectant mothers to embrace the unpredictable journey of parenthood. It encourages them to prioritize rest, let go of judgment, and prepare for the love and challenges that lie ahead.