Parenting
Essential Guidance for New Mothers
by Michelle Trenton
Updated: November 18, 2020
Originally Published: Aug. 10, 2014
While you might be tempted to dive into parenting literature like Dr. Spock’s works or other guides that claim to prepare you for every twist and turn of motherhood, a full book may not be necessary. Here’s a concise collection of the most valuable insights for new mothers:
Everything is Replaceable
When it comes to baby gifts crafted with love, such as a beautifully made quilt or a hand-stitched blanket, they are indeed treasures. However, if your little one decides to decorate these items with bodily fluids, it may be best to part ways with them. Say goodbye and dispose of it – or even burn it – based on whether your child has started solids yet. Trust me, some messes are just too much to handle.
Seize Nap Opportunities
The importance of sleep for a new mother cannot be overstated. It’s vital to make the most of every chance to rest, even if those moments seem fleeting. Instead of stressing about sterilizing pacifiers every time they hit the floor, remember that soon enough, you’ll stop worrying about it anyway. Prioritize your sleep, even if it means letting a few things slide.
Use Your Excuses Wisely
With a newborn, you gain a remarkable array of excuses for avoiding social commitments. The “baby is unwell” card is a trump card that requires no justification. No one will question a mother’s dedication to her sick child, so don’t hesitate to use it when necessary.
Prepare for Emotional Ups and Downs
Returning to work can be challenging, especially when faced with insensitive comments from colleagues. If someone like Jim from accounting remarks on your appearance, resist the urge to retaliate. Emotional upheaval is normal during this time, so take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re doing your best. You can always vent those frustrations later, once the baby is asleep.
Acknowledge Your Partner’s Experience
Remember, the father of your child is also navigating the challenges of parenthood. While he may not be experiencing the same physical changes as you, he is still adjusting. Try to be understanding and patient, even if you feel overwhelmed.
Let Go of Perfection
Don’t stress over minor details like your baby’s wardrobe. If your little one has been in the same onesie for days, it’s not a big deal. Your home may carry the scent of “baby supplies,” but embrace this phase of life. It’s more important to bond with your new family than to maintain a spotless environment.
Embrace Your Emotions
If you find yourself crying over spilled breast milk, allow yourself to feel those emotions. Sometimes, resisting the urge to cry can be more exhausting than just letting it happen. You will rediscover your balance in due time.
Navigating motherhood comes with a flood of advice, much of which can be conflicting or overwhelming. Remember, at the end of the day, no one knows your baby better than you do. Trust your instincts, and prioritize your well-being, particularly sleep.
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Summary:
New motherhood presents a unique set of challenges and emotional experiences. Prioritizing sleep, managing expectations, and trusting your instincts are crucial for navigating this journey. Embrace the messiness of life with a newborn and remember that you know your child best.