As large families become more common, the questions and comments from onlookers can often be overwhelming. Here are ten questions that can be particularly frustrating for those with many children. Understanding the impact of such inquiries can help foster more respectful interactions.
- “Are you a circus act?” It’s disheartening to feel like a spectacle just because you have a larger family. Counting the number of children out loud and pointing is neither clever nor polite. Yes, we have five children. Congratulations on your counting skills.
- “Are you trying to outdo the Duggars?” This is a frequent remark that feels more like a cliché than humor. The truth is, I’m simply enjoying the journey of parenthood, not plotting any grand schemes.
- “You should really learn to say no!” This comment presumes a lot about personal dynamics. My choices about family size and relationships are my own, and such assumptions can be quite inaccurate.
- “Do you know what causes that?” Yes, we’re fully aware and quite skilled at it, thank you for your concern.
- “Were they all intended?” This question suggests a level of scrutiny that is quite uncomfortable. My family planning is a private matter, and it shouldn’t be a topic of public discussion.
- “Are you very religious?” This question implies a stereotype that many large families are solely the result of religious beliefs. Many families simply enjoy raising children, regardless of their spiritual views.
- “Why didn’t you stop at a certain number?” Children are not pets to be discarded. Each child is cherished, and this question can come off as insensitive.
- “How do you manage the expenses?” We have our strategies, including sharing resources and being creative in our budgeting. It’s not always easy, but we make it work.
- “I could never handle so many kids!” That’s perfectly okay. Everyone has different capacities and preferences when it comes to family size.
- “You’re done having kids, right?” Unless you’re planning to finance my children’s education, that’s a personal question.
The most infuriating remark, however, is the sympathetic “You poor woman!” Yes, life with a large family can be hectic, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I adore my children and my life, and I embrace the chaos that comes with it. Large families may not be for everyone, but they certainly have their own unique joys.
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In summary, when engaging with large families, it’s important to be mindful of the questions we ask. Respectful and considerate communication can lead to more positive interactions and a better understanding of family dynamics.