As you finalize the arrangements for your child’s inaugural summer at sleepaway camp, a wave of anxiety may wash over you. The contract is signed, the fees are paid, and the reality sets in: your child is heading off to camp. This can be a significant milestone, not only for them but for you as well. The months leading up to their departure may feel particularly daunting. Your child will learn independence, tackle challenges without your immediate support, and grow in ways you may not expect. As a parent, you might find it harder to let go than they do. Last year, when my son, Lucas, prepared for camp, I realized how emotionally taxing this transition could be, especially after dedicating years to my children’s upbringing.
When the day came for Lucas to leave, he expressed hesitation about boarding the bus. My instinct was to keep him close, but I encouraged him by sharing that other new campers felt the same. With a mix of fear and excitement, he waved goodbye and embarked on his adventure. I coped by taking my daughter to a movie, where I indulged in snacks while shedding tears over how quickly time passes.
For the next two weeks, I found myself obsessively checking online for photos of Lucas, analyzing each image for signs of joy or distress. I eagerly awaited his letters, crying as I read each one. Ultimately, we all emerged from this experience changed but stronger. Lucas had a memorable summer, while my daughter relished her time as the sole focus of my attention. If you find yourself in a similar position, here are some strategies to help ease the transition for everyone involved.
Before the Summer Begins…
- Choosing the Right Camp: With a plethora of camps available—co-ed, single-sex, nearby or far away—selecting the right one can be overwhelming. A camp director once reminded me, “At the end of the day, they’re all just cabins in the woods.” Identify your essential criteria, visit a few camps, and trust your instincts. Once you find one that aligns with your priorities, remember that it’s ultimately about the experience, not the amenities.
- Connect with Other Campers: Try to establish contact with a camper from your area before the summer begins. A familiar face can ease the transition, and returning campers often share valuable insights that aren’t included in the camp’s information packet. This prep can help your child feel more at ease when they arrive.
- Follow the Packing List: Adhere to the camp’s essential packing list. Use items that are already worn or slightly damaged; there’s no guarantee what condition they’ll return in. Label your child’s belongings to minimize losses. However, consider allowing your child to bring the latest trend, like special socks, to help them fit in. Don’t stress about the minor details like which shower caddy to choose.
While They’re at Camp…
- Don’t Overthink It: Relax about minor concerns like sun protection or grooming. Camp staff will ensure most of these needs are met. Your child may come home a bit dirtier or sun-kissed, but a good wash will remedy that.
- Trust the Process of Eating: Kids tend to lose weight at camp due to their high activity levels. If your child has specific eating concerns, communicate with camp staff. Otherwise, trust that they are receiving adequate nutrition; they will likely gain weight back once they return home.
On Visiting Day…
- Ask Thoughtful Questions: Instead of bombarding your child with inquiries about their experience, focus on a few key areas. Asking if they’re happy or who their friends are can provoke anxiety. A simple “How are you?” may suffice. Let them share as much as they’re comfortable with.
- Limit Treats: While it’s tempting to bring an abundance of snacks, check the camp’s policy on food. Some camps may allow kids to keep treats for a limited time. Consider bringing a shared item for the bunk, like a cookie cake, and a small surprise for your child, such as a new baseball cap.
- Avoid Inspecting Their Space: Camp cabins will likely be messy. It’s best to avoid looking through their belongings to spare yourself the stress.
- Leave Quickly: When it’s time to go, keep goodbyes brief. Lingering can make the process harder for both you and your child. A quick hug and departure are often best.
After They Return…
- Give Them Space: Some children may struggle with reintegrating back home. Lucas returned as if he had never left, but every child is different. Allow them time to readjust. A month or two after camp is a great time to have a conversation about their experiences.
This journey isn’t just about your child gaining independence; it’s also a period of growth for you as a parent. Trust the process, and you’ll both come out stronger.
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Summary
Sending your child to sleepaway camp can be a transformative experience for both child and parent. By preparing adequately before camp, managing emotions during the stay, and ensuring a smooth transition home, both parties can benefit from this opportunity for growth and independence.