Before I became a parent, I would visit the hair salon, which was simply referred to as “getting a haircut.” Now, as a mother, that same visit is framed as “me time,” a supposed indulgence. The process remains unchanged, yet the label suggests it’s a luxurious escape. In reality, sitting in a salon for 45 minutes, staring at my reflection while someone else styles my hair, hardly qualifies as a treat.
Similarly, the notion of enjoying a bath is often touted as “me time.” Regardless of the candles or bubbles, a bath is merely a means to clean oneself while seated. Meanwhile, my kids are out there creating chaos, and the moment is far from serene. Even sipping coffee and flipping through a magazine doesn’t equate to “me time.” It’s just a practical way to kick-start my day, not a moment of self-care. And when I close the bathroom door? That’s not “me time”; it’s just a biological necessity.
In my view, the concept of “me time” is a significant misrepresentation of reality for mothers. It’s time to stop romanticizing basic self-care activities. The average new mother reportedly has only about 17 minutes of personal time each day, but as a mom, I can assure you that those minutes are not spent reflecting on my life. I have little desire to spend that time with myself, as my daily routine is often mundane.
When you’re young and unencumbered, every moment feels like “me time.” Life revolves around personal choices and spontaneous adventures, often leading to amusing, albeit questionable, situations. However, parenting transforms this dynamic. Instead of indulging in impulsive behavior, you find yourself focused on nurturing and ensuring your children are developing properly.
In the UK, we enjoy reality shows like “The Only Way Is Essex” and “Made in Chelsea,” which showcase young adults making questionable life choices. These individuals often claim to need “me time” to contemplate the perceived injustices they face. They may even resort to throwing drinks at each other during nights out as a misguided attempt to reclaim their dignity. I can only imagine how they will cope with the demands of parenthood, where disrespect and chaos are daily occurrences. Trust me, I’ve tried throwing drinks—I assure you, it’s a waste of good wine.
So, to all the mothers out there, I suggest placing your “me time” where my children’s artwork ends up—right in the recycling bin.
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In summary, the idea of “me time” for mothers is often overstated and unrealistic. While we may hear about the importance of personal time, the reality of parenting doesn’t always allow for these moments of indulgence. Instead, it’s essential to focus on the responsibilities of motherhood and the joy it brings, even amidst the chaos.