I’ve always been the type of person who cultivates various circles of female friendships—some are nearby, while others reside far away. I have friends from work, connections made through my children’s school, and a growing network of online companions. While we might not be sharing memes all day like our kids, these friends are just a text away.
These are the individuals we turn to for advice, share laughs with, and lean on during tough times. Adult friendships can be just as significant as the childhood bonds we once cherished—perhaps even more so. For many busy moms, these quick exchanges fill the void that long phone calls once occupied.
Friendships are a lot like marriages—they require effort, open communication, and a sprinkle of luck to thrive. Unfortunately, not all friendships last forever. Life can pull us apart for various reasons: misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or simply evolving interests. The end of a friendship can be tough; no one relishes the feeling of estrangement. However, there’s often a good reason for moving on, and the best course is to embrace change.
As I navigate my 40s, I’ve experienced friendship breakups more than I’d like to admit. However, I’ve gleaned some important insights along the way:
- Cherish the Good Times
The evenings spent sharing wine and late-night talks created wonderful memories. Just because the friendship has ended doesn’t mean you can’t hold onto the positive experiences you shared or the support you provided each other. Reflect on those moments with gratitude, as they have likely contributed to who you are today. - Not All Friendships Are Meant to Last
Every friendship serves a purpose at a certain time, and sometimes, it becomes clear that it’s time to part ways. Move forward peacefully—avoid gossiping—and understand that the ebb and flow of friendships is simply part of life. - Social Media Breaks Can Be Healthy
Watching your former friend’s joyful moments online can be painful. Sometimes, a clean break is necessary. Deleting each other from social media isn’t a personal attack; it’s just a way to heal. Likewise, try not to take it personally if you find yourself on the other end of the delete button. - Mutual Connections Can Still Flourish
It might feel awkward, but there’s no reason your kids or partners can’t maintain friendships even if you and your friend don’t. My children have drifted from their friends, while I’ve continued to bond with their parents, and vice versa. It takes effort to navigate this, but it is doable. - New Friendships Await
The initial weeks and months following a friendship breakup can feel just as heart-wrenching as a romantic split. It’s easy to believe that no one could ever fill the void left behind. However, like any breakup, there are plenty of other potential friends out there. Healing takes time, but eventually, you’ll discover new connections—perhaps even someone who’s already in your life.
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In summary, ending a friendship can be challenging, but it’s important to focus on the good times, understand that not all relationships are meant to last, and recognize that new friendships will blossom in time.
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