Parenting presents its own set of challenges, but for those of us grappling with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), the experience can be uniquely intense. As a child, I often found myself repeating actions until they felt “just right.” My childhood friend would join in, thinking it was a quirky dance. However, the fleeting sense of relief would vanish, only to be replaced by compulsions, like flicking light switches endlessly before bed. My tears during these moments were frequent, leading my bewildered parents to seek help from a psychologist—a task complicated by the limited understanding of mental health in the 1980s.
From a young age, anxiety was a constant companion. The fear of losing my mother in a car accident plagued me, often triggered by my own perceived failures, such as forgetting to express my love in a specific manner. My childhood was filled with distressing thoughts, a reality that was misunderstood by counselors who deemed me merely “sensitive.”
The years that followed were somewhat bearable, marked by the typical sibling chaos. Yet, everything changed during my sophomore year of high school when I experienced an overwhelming panic attack, leading to bizarre sensory experiences. My mother, frantic as I described my symptoms, sought immediate help. Months of anxiety followed, culminating in a visit to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with OCD and clinical depression. Hearing this diagnosis was liberating; it brought clarity to my compulsions and intrusive thoughts.
Now, as a mother of three, including two foster children, I continue to battle the shadows of anxiety and depression. Everyday situations, like lunchtime chaos, can send my mind into overdrive, making the simple act of feeding my children feel monumental. I often feel like anxiety and depression are cruel classmates, mocking me while I navigate the challenges of parenthood.
Reflecting on my past, I remember visiting my grandmother in a psychiatric ward, where her vibrant spirit had dimmed. I wish I could convey to her that I understand her struggles now. The connection between us, shaped by genetics and shared experiences, remains strong.
In my own parenting journey, I often grapple with feelings of inadequacy. I worry about my children recalling moments when I was overwhelmed, instead of crafting perfect memories. The fear of judgment looms large, as I question whether I am doing enough. During my second pregnancy, I made the decision to stop taking my anxiety medication after a traumatic experience with my first child. This choice led to intense suffering, filled with obsessive thoughts about potential tragedies.
When my son was born, the immediate relief I felt was profound. Yet, I understood that living with OCD meant accepting that some days would be harder than others. It’s akin to an incessant itch that demands attention; the more I try to ignore it, the louder it becomes.
I have come to realize that every mother’s journey is different. Comparing myself to those who appear effortlessly organized only adds to my struggles. Victory lies in recognizing my unique battles and finding freedom in acknowledging my mental health.
As I embrace my reality, I urge fellow mothers to know that it’s okay to feel anxious or overwhelmed. There is power in sharing our stories, and through this, we can find solidarity and understanding.
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In summary, being a mother with OCD is a complex and challenging experience. It involves navigating the anxiety that often accompanies parenting while striving to ensure a loving environment for my children. Acknowledging my struggles has been freeing, and I hope sharing this journey resonates with others facing similar challenges.