When it comes to motherhood, there are a plethora of unwritten rules that many believe must be adhered to. However, I’ve come to realize that some of these practices simply do not work for me—and that’s okay. Here are seven things that I, as a mother, have chosen to reconsider.
1. Daily Baths for Children
Contrary to popular belief, daily baths aren’t necessary unless your child has been actively playing in dirt. While I do rinse off the sand and sunscreen in the summer, during colder months, frequent baths can lead to dry skin. I’ve decided to limit baths to twice a week, which helps avoid the battle of bathing a squirming toddler and preschooler.
2. Lengthy Bedtime Rituals
We’ve all heard that a calm bedtime routine is crucial for children. However, my initial hour-long routine, which included everything from baths to storytime, has morphed into a complicated series of tasks. Now, I’m streamlining it to just tooth-brushing and prayers, which allows for a more efficient end to the day.
3. Obsessing Over Organic Foods
For years, I found myself stuck in the produce aisle, weighing the decision between overpriced organic apples and their conventional counterparts. I’ve made peace with the idea that it’s more important for my children to eat fruits and vegetables, regardless of their organic status, than to stress over the pricing.
4. Mandatory Vegetable Consumption
In my efforts to encourage healthy eating, I initially forced my first child to eat a specific number of bites before dessert. This led to endless negotiations. Now, with my second child, I follow a more relaxed approach, allowing them to explore their preferences without the pressure of “bites.” After all, it’s better for them to enjoy mealtime than to engage in constant debates.
5. Unwavering Patience
As a parent, I strive to maintain my composure, but it’s not always possible. The reality is that children need to witness emotional responses; it’s a part of learning about the world. They will face challenges that require them to understand that everyone has their breaking point.
6. Maintaining a Spotless Home
Cleaning has become a nearly impossible task amidst the chaos of parenting. Instead of striving for perfection, I’ve started encouraging my children to assist with tidying up. This not only lightens my load but also teaches them the importance of contributing to their environment.
7. Constant Quality Time
While spending weekends exclusively with my children sounds fulfilling, I cherish the time I used to have for myself. Therefore, we’re implementing a policy where each parent receives a half-day off weekly, allowing for uninterrupted personal time to recharge. This change will enhance our family dynamic.
In summary, motherhood is not about adhering to an idealized set of standards but rather finding what works for your family. By making these adjustments, I hope to create a more balanced and enjoyable environment for both my children and myself. For those interested in exploring more about home insemination, this article on intracervical insemination offers valuable insights, while Make a Mom provides essential resources on fertility. Additionally, March of Dimes is an excellent source for those considering fertility treatments.