As my youngest son, Alex, walked across the stage to receive his college diploma, I reflected on the years I had spent managing his daily life—reminding him about allowances, medical appointments, and even the occasional car wash. Those days had come to an end.
Parenting Alex was a journey filled with pivotal moments that shaped him into the man he is today. From his early years, when he was just 18 months old and needed glasses to correct his lazy eye, to the day he entered kindergarten and formed friendships that have lasted through the years. I remember the pride I felt as he walked to school by himself at age 8 and the bittersweet joy of watching him play his last little league game at 14. These experiences, both joyful and challenging, defined his journey.
When he entered college at nearly 22, I had my reservations. I knew he was intelligent and motivated, yet I couldn’t shake the feeling that he wasn’t entirely ready. Watching him settle into his dorm room filled me with anxiety; I sensed the difficulties he would face, from managing coursework to navigating social dynamics, all while adjusting to life in a new environment.
In an effort to support him, my husband and I often hovered, trying to anticipate any challenges he might encounter. We were, in essence, operating as overprotective guardians eager to smooth the path ahead of him. However, after Alex took a break to attend community college for a semester and then made the commendable choice to return to his original university, we made a pivotal decision.
We chose to step back.
This didn’t mean we were unavailable. We remained supportive, always ready to listen and offer guidance. Yet, we allowed him the space to resolve his issues independently. This choice fostered his personal growth, as if a lens had finally focused on the vision of his future.
For parents of older children, especially those who seem a bit lost, it’s crucial to cultivate trust. Encourage them to explore their own paths and discover what truly ignites their passions. Allow them to stumble and learn from their mistakes without rushing in to provide solutions. The most valuable gift we can offer is the freedom to grow, to find strength, and to carve their own direction in life.
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In summary, letting go can be one of the most beneficial strategies for parenting. Allowing children to navigate their lives fosters growth, independence, and clarity about their future.