Recently, it struck me that it has been precisely nine months since I signed my book contract. This span of time has been filled with stress, anticipation, anxiety, and exhilaration—much like my experiences during pregnancy. It feels fitting to compare the two, as this book has truly become my fourth child. However, the similarities extend beyond just timing.
1. Expectations vs. Reality
I envisioned pregnancy and childbirth as miraculous experiences, where I would radiate with maternal instincts and joy. Similarly, I thought that becoming a published author would transform me into a sophisticated intellectual. The truth is, both experiences have been far from what I anticipated. I struggled through pregnancy and faced criticism during my first reading for being too candid. Not much changes in that regard.
2. Preoccupation
When my child was an infant, I inundated my friends with emails—ten per week—filled with pictures and updates, driving them to the brink of annoyance. Lily was my sole focus, much like the book is now. Can you recall a time when I discussed anything other than my writing?
3. Unsolicited Opinions
People often share their thoughts more freely than I would prefer. For instance, I received a message from a stranger in Florida critiquing my attire: “I’m sorry, but that purple dress? It’s not a good look on TV.” Did I ask for your opinion? Just as I didn’t ask for feedback on my choices as a parent, I certainly didn’t ask about my wardrobe.
4. Using the “Baby” Card
When you have a newborn, you exist in a haze that everyone around you understands. I find myself in a similar daze, but this time my “baby” doesn’t require diaper changes or feedings.
5. The Lows Are Challenging
I vividly recall the disappointment of a book signing in Concord, New Hampshire, where only one person attended. A good rule of thumb: you shouldn’t have fewer attendees than the number of people who witnessed the birth of your child. Sitting at a table begging passersby to buy your book feels even worse than when the mailman mistakenly asked about your due date while your baby was in the other room.
6. The Highs Are Rewarding
The sleepless nights and emotional turmoil can be overwhelming, but then comes that moment of pure bliss when you hold your child close. Despite the challenges of the past few months, such as the tough reading in New Hampshire, the exhilarating experiences in Warwick, RI, and Burlington, MA, have made it all worthwhile.
7. The “Aha” Moment
For me, it was when my children first smiled at me. There’s nothing like the joy that accompanies that moment. In the case of my book, it was the thrilling news that I made it onto next week’s New York Times Best Seller list. What a rush!
Lastly, I want to express my gratitude for your support throughout this journey.
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Summary
Writing a book can be likened to the experience of having a baby, filled with unexpected challenges and joyful moments. From the initial excitement and overwhelming focus to unsolicited advice from others, the parallels are striking. With highs and lows akin to parenthood, the journey of authorship can be just as rewarding.