By: Sarah Thompson
Updated: Oct. 12, 2020
Originally Published: March 31, 2012
The loss of my child, Alex, to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) seven and a half years ago has been the most challenging experience of my life. The journey through grief and healing is a complex and ongoing process. Recently, I have reflected on the methods that helped me emerge from the depths of my sorrow and reclaim my ability to function in everyday life. Here are the eight strategies I found most beneficial:
- Time: Time is perhaps the most difficult yet powerful ally in the journey of grief. It can be both a source of comfort and frustration. I vividly remember the first week after my family departed, lying on the floor beneath the kitchen table, consumed by tears and despair. In my experience, it took about three years for the intensity of my grief to begin to lessen.
- Medication: Each individual’s response to medication varies, but it can be an invaluable resource for emotional stability. I regularly consult with a psychiatrist to ensure I remain balanced. Whenever I think I’m ready to discontinue my medication, I remind myself that this thought is a byproduct of its effectiveness. The right antidepressants have been life-saving for me.
- Writing: While revisiting painful memories can be daunting, the act of writing can provide immense relief and serve as a form of catharsis.
- Therapy: Regular sessions with a counselor can be crucial in the healing process. Having ongoing support from a trusted therapist can make a significant impact on your recovery journey.
- Distraction: To prevent being overwhelmed by sadness, it’s important to engage in activities that provide distraction, such as reading, watching television, or socializing with friends. I still rely on this strategy when necessary.
- Allowance: It’s vital to permit yourself to feel and express your sadness at times. I allow every emotion to flow freely until I feel a sense of release, which is genuinely beneficial.
- Limitation: Early on, I recognized certain triggers that would plunge me back into despair. Establishing boundaries to protect my mental health has been essential, and I continue to adhere to these limits.
- Decision: After some time—around three years for me—it becomes exhausting to remain in a state of sorrow. It is essential to actively decide to pursue healing. Once I made this choice, my outlook began to improve significantly.
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Summary
Coping with the loss of a child is an ongoing journey that requires time, support, and proactive strategies. Essential methods include seeking professional help, allowing yourself to grieve, and establishing boundaries to protect your mental health. With these tools, it is possible to navigate the complexities of grief and find a way forward.