Many women’s magazines offer “Mom” versions of articles aimed at enhancing one’s sex life, often with titles that sound more like fire safety tips than genuine advice. Phrases like “How to Keep Your Love Life Hot and Your Sex Life in Flames” or “10 Ways to Reignite Your Marriage” make you wonder if you should keep a fire extinguisher handy. Let’s get real: the reality of intimacy after children can be far from sizzling. Here are five reasons why the sex advice offered in these magazines may not be suitable for moms.
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Don’t Forget the Foreplay.
Multitasking Mom Perspective: Seriously? With everything on our plates, adding foreplay feels like just another item on an already overflowing to-do list. Between managing errands, catching up on shows, and preparing meals, foreplay may have slipped down the priority list for many. My husband’s “foreplay” is brushing his teeth, and I’m grateful for it. -
Set the Mood (Candles, Oils, Lingerie).
Brutally Honest Response: Setting the mood seems like a relic of the past. If there’s no lingering odor and I’m wearing a decent t-shirt, that’s as good as it gets. Dim lighting? Sure, if I can find the right switch. And let’s face it, if the TV provides a glow while we sneak in some intimacy, we’re multitasking like pros. -
Have a Date Night Every Week.
Reality Check: While the idea of a weekly date night sounds wonderful in theory, it rarely aligns with our chaotic lives. Between illness, school events, or simply exhaustion, it’s a stretch to find a night when both partners can go out without discussing the kids the entire time. -
Time Your Trysts Around Nap-Time.
Realistic and Snarky Response: Timing intimacy around nap time adds pressure that most moms don’t need. Telling us to relax and enjoy the moment while watching the clock is like suggesting we sleep when the baby sleeps—easier said than done! -
Start Your Day With a Bang.
Candid Response: Who decided that an hour of morning intimacy is necessary? Honestly, I’d rather hit the snooze button than wake up early for that. The only thing I want to do in the morning is sleep!
In conclusion, it’s essential for moms to focus on quality over quantity when it comes to intimacy. Instead of trying to follow magazine tips that don’t fit our realities, consider embracing the moments you have without the added pressure. For more insights on home insemination and related topics, check out this piece on how to engage with your partner. Additionally, if you’re exploring options for starting a family, Make a Mom has some excellent resources. For those curious about the IVF process, this guide on IVF offers valuable information.
Summary
Moms should be cautious when taking sex advice from magazines, as the tips often do not align with the realities of parenting. Instead of striving to meet unrealistic expectations, it’s better to focus on genuine connection and intimacy, embracing the unique challenges and joys that come with motherhood.