This month, my partner and I mark the 27th anniversary of our first encounter. By “mark,” I mean we’ll likely let the day pass without any fanfare. Given that we’ve spent nearly three decades together, I’ve known him longer than I haven’t known him.
It didn’t take long for us to realize that our relationship was destined to grow beyond those initial dates. Part of this decision stemmed from his need for help feeding his dog during his evening classes, but that’s a tale for another time.
While there have been challenges along the way, I’m confident that our bond has stood the test of time. At this point in our lives, we find joy in each other’s company—even on those days when it feels like we’re on different pages.
There are certainly reasons that might suggest our marriage shouldn’t thrive, yet it does for several reasons:
- Limited Common Interests: While we share fundamental values and life goals, our hobbies don’t align. I admire couples who garden, refurbish furniture, or embark on outdoor adventures together. Our leisure time primarily consists of napping and watching television.
- Not My Ideal Type: You might wonder how I’ve spent 27 years with someone who doesn’t fit my initial “type.” I’ve always been drawn to actors like Antonio Banderas and Idris Elba, whereas my husband, while undeniably handsome, does not fit that mold. However, after so many years, attraction transcends mere physical appearance.
- Shoes Indoors: My husband has a habit of wearing his shoes at home, which took me a while to accept. I prefer the comfort of bare feet as soon as I walk through the door. Even now, I can’t help but ask him, “Where are you off to?” when he makes his way out of the bedroom with shoes on.
- Football Enthusiast: Growing up in a household where football was a constant presence, I never expected to marry someone who could get as animated as my father during games. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t bet on the outcomes.
- Different Reading Habits: I am an avid reader, while my husband enjoys books but doesn’t share my passion. Fortunately, I can immerse myself in a novel while he watches his beloved football matches.
- War and Prison Films: My partner has a fondness for war and prison movies—genres that I’m not particularly keen on. Luckily, he’s accommodating and often lets me choose our movie nights, though he usually insists on his favorite snacks.
- Financial Mindset: I lean towards spending, while my husband is much more conservative with finances. If left to him, we might still have that outdated blue sofa he owned when we first met. I’ve certainly raised the standard a bit.
- Different Activity Levels: My husband often wishes I would join him in more outdoor activities like hiking or swimming. Unfortunately, that’s not in my nature.
- Cultural Differences: Having been raised in Wisconsin, my husband considers bratwurst a staple, while I grew up in New York, where hot dogs reigned supreme.
So, what sustains our marriage? It’s our mutual decision to love one another every single day—even during those moments when we may not want to be in the same room. This is especially true on game days when my husband transforms into a passionate fan, indulging in bratwurst while I retreat to a quiet space with a good book. Even when he’s engrossed in a movie or I receive a package of unnecessary shoes, we choose to remain committed to one another.
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In summary, the foundation of our lasting marriage lies in our daily choice to love each other, despite our differences and individual quirks.