Parenting
The Mother’s Commitment by Keesha Beckford
Updated: Aug. 21, 2015
Originally Published: Jan. 16, 2012
I will strive to fill our days with joy, connection, play, new adventures, education, healthy meals and snacks, and regular rest for everyone involved.
I will arrange playdates with fellow parents and their children, as these interactions are crucial for our well-being. However, if we encounter a day marked by tears, sibling disputes, monotony, unhealthy snacks, and missed naps, I will accept this reality and work towards a brighter tomorrow.
I will avoid consuming an entire bag of sweets to cope with stress, as that will only lead to unwanted weight gain. Instead, I will seek solace through messages with friends and quickly get the kids outside. Should it rain and hinder our outdoor plans, I will not feel victimized by fate; rather, I will craft an alternative plan, even if it means a simple trip to Target.
I will aim to be budget-conscious, both at Target and elsewhere, resisting the allure of an overpriced box of organic cookies at Whole Foods. I will utilize online resources, magazines, and word-of-mouth to discover free or low-cost activities. I will actively seek out deals through platforms like Groupon, ensuring I never pay full price for any event.
I will avoid the “Land of No,” opting instead for positive communication. I will strive to practice empathy rather than criticism, to communicate calmly rather than raise my voice, to supervise without condescension, and to breathe deeply rather than react with frustration. Thank you, Jesse Jackson.
I will prioritize regular exercise to maintain my mood and to avoid the discomfort of an expanding waistline that necessitates a new wardrobe. I will also ensure I carve out personal time for myself at regular intervals. If this time seems delayed and I feel overwhelmed, I will devise a plan, secure childcare, and dress appropriately—be it for exercise or a night out—to ensure I can step away from home.
In moments of emotional upheaval, I will remain composed and resolute. I will not be dragged into the emotional whirlwind my child may create. Instead, I will provide them with the space they need or a comforting embrace, depending on the situation. I will take precautions to ensure their safety by discreetly placing a blanket or towel nearby when their distress escalates.
Every Sunday, I will compile a menu of dinners for the week ahead to mitigate last-minute stress during busy afternoons. I will prioritize sleep; when the children nap, I will use that time for rest. Cleaning, writing, and browsing the internet can wait—if I neglect my own rest, I risk losing precious moments of relaxation to an early-waking child. If necessary, I will set an alarm to ensure I can take a brief nap or prepare dinner after recharging.
I will recognize that potty training is a process, and though it may take time, my children will eventually outgrow the need for diapers. I will judiciously use television as a tool when necessary, understanding that programs like PBS can be beneficial in moderation.
I will also devote energy to nurturing my relationship with my partner, ensuring we enjoy our roles as spouses in addition to being parents. Staying informed about the latest parenting insights will be a priority for me, as I strive to embody a blend of nurturing and practical discipline. I will not berate myself for unmet expectations or circumstances beyond my control.
I will remind myself that despite occasional failures and moments of frustration, I am a good mother, and my children are fortunate to have me just as I feel lucky to have them.
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Summary
This piece outlines a mother’s commitment to fostering a joyful and nurturing environment for her children while acknowledging the challenges of parenting. It emphasizes the importance of self-care, positive communication, and maintaining balance between personal and family life. The author reflects on finding joy in everyday moments, employing practical strategies to manage stress, and recognizing the value of supportive friendships. Resources for home insemination, such as Cryobaby’s at-home insemination kit and the ASRM, are highlighted as helpful tools for those on a similar journey.