In today’s parenting landscape, a notable trend has emerged where new parents bring their children to concerts featuring bands they loved before becoming parents. This phenomenon reflects a broader cultural shift where individuals refuse to relinquish their enjoyment of live music simply due to the challenges of finding a babysitter. Similar to restaurants offering “Family Tables” or cinemas hosting “Baby Nights,” these concerts provide opportunities for families to bond through music. However, parents must engage in a form of wishful thinking, reminiscent of the mindset of those who embraced the punk scene in the ’70s: “If I immerse myself in the experience, perhaps I’ll momentarily forget about the diaper changes awaiting me.”
When I shared this trend with my friend Laura, a seasoned parent in her sixties, she remarked, “Goodness, more family bonding moments than we really need!” Despite this, I firmly believe in parents’ rights to carve out a night for themselves, presenting concert attendance as something special and adult-like to their children. This can serve as a future milestone to which children can aspire once they complete their green bean servings and homework assignments.
There is merit in the ambient approach to music appreciation, where parents play their favorite songs at home, allowing children to absorb the sounds naturally, rather than through coercion. I often recall interviews with musicians who attribute their musical tastes to their upbringing, stating, “My parents played a lot of Johnny Cash, and that’s why I write the way I do.” Good music is akin to nutritious food; it should be readily available, but ultimately, the choice to engage lies with the child.
It’s important to recognize that imposing your musical preferences on your child can lead to resistance. For example, if a teenager feels pressured to embrace your favorite bands, they may rebel by gravitating toward artists that contrast with your tastes. Consider the potential fallout if a child raised on classic rock suddenly opts for pop hits.
When my daughter, Sophie, expressed interest in attending a Crowded House concert during her fifth-grade year, I agreed. I had noticed her humming their tunes while studying, and I wanted her to have a memorable experience to share when asked about her first concert. Moreover, having a young companion by my side might even catch the band’s attention.
On an unexpectedly warm spring evening, we drove across the Bay Bridge to the Fillmore Auditorium in San Francisco, a landmark rich with rock history. Given her petite stature at just under 4’ 10”, Sophie worried about being overwhelmed by enthusiastic fans. However, I reassured her, noting that the average age of Crowded House fans is around 49, many of whom wear comfortable footwear and support environmental causes.
As we approached the venue, we were greeted warmly by fellow fans waiting in line, with smiles and friendly waves directed at Sophie. Shortly after the opening act, a security guard approached, asking if she would like a chair to sit on during the show. He placed a padded seat in the front row for her, ensuring she could enjoy the concert comfortably.
As the performance progressed, the same guard kindly handed her a water bottle from the stage. Even Mark Hart, the guitarist, managed to share a grin with Sophie while she enjoyed his drink. As the concert neared its end, the security guard returned to offer her a rolled concert poster, informing her that they were not typically distributed.
As we prepared to leave, a man with a backstage pass stopped us, gifting Sophie a special keepsake. Such moments highlight the unpredictable joys of introducing your child to your musical world, where your dreams of musical connection can come to fruition through them.
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In summary, introducing children to live music can create lasting memories and foster a love for music, provided it is done thoughtfully and without pressure. This approach allows children to develop their preferences organically, leading to a healthier relationship with music as they grow.