“My choice for a mom would always be you,” my 9-year-old declared.
“That’s really kind of you,” I replied, slightly skeptical. “What makes you say that?”
“Because you’re the best mom ever,” she answered, flouncing out of the room with an air of certainty.
Really? Is that true?
Some days, I feel like I might be one of the worst mothers around. I’m not referring to those who physically or emotionally harm their children; that’s a different matter entirely. Instead, I’m talking about the minor shortcomings that prevent me from being, in the words of Mary Poppins, “practically perfect in every way.”
I often snap at the kids to finish breakfast because they’re running late for school. I threaten to take away the toddler’s cherished toy if she doesn’t stop racing around the dinner table like a lion. I roll my eyes when my middle schooler dramatically collapses after stubbing her toe. I lose my patience when my second child recounts the day’s events in exhaustive detail. Sometimes, I even fantasize about what life would be like without kids.
So, please don’t select me if you’re on a quest for the ideal mom.
But still, choose me.
You should select me because I’m unafraid of spiders, tackling high mountains, or scraping my knee. I’m not intimidated by failure, but I do fear not trying, especially when you genuinely want something but hesitate for any reason. Taking risks requires courage, confidence, and trust. I can guide you in being brave, but it’s also essential to know when to seek help, recognize your limits, and achieve your aspirations alongside others.
You should pick me because I can cartwheel, skateboard, roller skate, and ice skate. I genuinely enjoy attending baseball games—not just for the snacks. I love watching you play soccer, especially seeing the determined look on your face when you have a chance to score, even if you miss.
You should choose me because I’ll always hold your hand during takeoff and landing. The transition from one place to another, regardless of its nature, can be daunting. A hand to hold can make all the difference.
You should select me because I will always give you honest feedback. Not the harsh truths that only bring heartache without guidance, but rather the truths you need to hear, even when they’re difficult or hard to see clearly at that moment. Truth is like a drug: some require constant access, while others might avoid it. Find your equilibrium in both sharing and receiving it.
You should choose me because I know how you like to curl up against my arm when I tuck you into bed. I know how to kiss you goodnight without getting tangled in your headgear. When I leave your room after saying goodnight, I will always respond to your “night-night-see-you-in-the-morning-love-you” with my own heartfelt reply.
You should select me because I prepare your lunches fresh every morning; it’s my way of showing love.
You should choose me because I believe in magic. This includes the Tooth Fairy, small miracles, like my peonies that bloom beautifully, and the wonders of the universe. While algorithms can explain much, the very fact that we exist is a remarkable phenomenon.
You should pick me because we are two peas in a pod. We tend to be perfectionists, often feeling responsible for others’ emotions, and we share a deep sympathy for their sadness. We sometimes question our actions even when we’ve done nothing wrong. Our enthusiasm and brilliant ideas overflow, filling the room with joy and creativity.
So yes, choose me, for no one knows you better, and no one loves you more. I am the best mom in the world, as long as I can be your mom.
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In summary, while self-doubt may creep in, the love and commitment a mother has for her child are immeasurable. Perfection may be an illusion, but the bond shared between mother and child is what truly matters.