Father’s Day evokes a mix of emotions for me. It’s a celebration filled with pancake breakfasts and barbecues, yet it also reminds me of the absence of my father and the moments we’ve lost over the last thirty years. Nevertheless, it brings immense joy as I create new memories with my own children. I cherish sharing stories about their grandpa, especially his unique warmth and humor, along with the invaluable wisdom he imparted. Although I often tuned him out during his lectures, I was surprised to find how many of his lessons truly resonated over time.
Parents, if you think your children aren’t listening while they appear bored or distracted by their devices, think again! Here’s a collection of his timeless advice that still echoes in my heart.
- Your reputation is paramount. Prioritize integrity in your actions and speech to safeguard it. In today’s social media age, discretion is vital.
- Aim to brighten someone’s day. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, regardless of their status. Remember the power of saying: “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry.”
- Dress appropriately. Avoid unflattering outfits that might deter potential admirers. For me, this meant steering clear of red nail polish and lipstick, a preference I still hold.
- There are three types of individuals: observers, doers, and those left wondering “What happened?” Strive to be a doer.
- Physical beauty is fleeting; cultivate your intellect instead. Engage in reading and learning. My father encouraged this through special reading times and vocabulary challenges that made learning enjoyable.
- While he couldn’t play an instrument, our home was always filled with diverse and beautiful music.
- Generosity in tipping is essential; remember, you might find yourself in the same position one day.
- Have faith in God.
- Be a gracious host, ensuring that everyone feels welcomed in your home.
- Step outside your comfort zone; you won’t forge friendships by remaining isolated.
- Choose a partner who is intelligent, kind, hardworking, and respectful to their family.
- Maintain an air of mystery in relationships; don’t be overly available. He believed in the value of playing hard to get.
- Choose your words wisely; they have the power to uplift or hurt others. I often found this advice directed at me during our discussions.
- Be a loyal friend. Show affection, be generous, and support those around you.
- Money is a finite resource; use it wisely. However, he believed in enjoying fine dining and pleasant environments.
- Give back to your community regularly.
- Family should be your priority. Cherish your parents and siblings, and always check in on your grandparents.
- Avoid dishonesty; it’s burdensome to remember lies. Stay humble and don’t boast.
- My father often said, “One hot day doesn’t make it summer.” This taught me not to rush to judgment about people or situations.
- Indulge in chocolate for bonding moments with your children. Late-night chats over Reese’s Mini Peanut Butter Cups or warm chocolate chip cookies became treasured rituals.
Do you have any memorable lessons from your father to share?
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In summary, my father left behind a legacy of wisdom that continues to guide me as I navigate parenting and life. His lessons not only shaped who I am but also serve as a foundation for how I raise my children.