Parenting can evoke unexpected competitive feelings, even for those who typically don’t view themselves as competitive. While I was never particularly concerned about academic accolades or sporting achievements, the arrival of my children has introduced a surprising rivalry in my life.
Take, for example, the appearance of my children. My son, Oliver, and daughter, Mia, bore a striking resemblance to their father when they were infants. Now, at three years old, Oliver is almost a carbon copy of him. Though I find my kids adorable, I can’t help but feel as though I’ve lost a genetic contest. It’s frustrating to hear compliments about their looks, which are frequent, and I often sense a pang of irritation.
Then there’s the competition I observe among friends and acquaintances. My partner and I started our family relatively early, welcoming our first child before many of our peers even considered parenthood. As we added a second child, it felt exhilarating to be ahead of the curve. However, as time has passed, our friends have begun to catch up and even surpass us in family size. They now have four children, some even welcoming twins, while we feel comfortably full with our two. I find myself grappling with envy toward those with larger families, even though I recognize that a fourth child would likely push me to my limits.
Interestingly, my partner, Tom, seems entirely unfazed by these feelings. He doesn’t share my sense of competition, which leads me to wonder if this is a common experience among mothers. Is this sort of rivalry normal, or is it unique to me?
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In summary, while the feelings of competition in parenting can be disconcerting, it’s essential to acknowledge them and understand that every family’s path is different. What matters most is finding joy in the unique journey of raising your children.