I understand that you might believe I allow my child to misbehave without consequences. I’ve noticed your disapproving glances, and I can imagine you think my child would benefit from a stern reprimand. If I were in your position, I might think the same way. However, I am navigating my own unique circumstances and have insights that may not be apparent to you.
My child struggles with a mood disorder, requiring a significant amount of medication just to manage daily life. For the first decade of his existence, he was focused on demonstrating that he could not be controlled, and I made many mistakes trying to assert my authority. After all, parents are supposed to maintain order, or so I thought, until I began to learn about the complexities of raising a child with a mood disorder.
The Limits of Control
It’s now clear to me that there are limits to what I can control. I cannot force my child’s brain to function as it should or to stop distorting reality, just as I can’t expect a child who uses a wheelchair to stand and walk. My responsibility lies in managing what I can, and sometimes that approach diverges from conventional discipline methods.
Redefining Discipline
Discipline should be centered on teaching, not merely punishing. The origin of the word “discipline” stems from the Latin “disciplina,” which means instruction and learning. This realization led me to ponder an important question: If no genuine learning occurs, can it truly be considered discipline, or am I merely exerting my will over a child facing disabilities? A child with a challenging condition still deserves understanding.
I strive to discipline my child by teaching him critical thinking and the consequences of his actions. At times, this is successful; however, there are moments when his emotional distress escalates to a point where rational thought is impossible. In such instances, true learning becomes unattainable.
Real-Life Examples
For instance, when my son, Alex, received an email about a delayed shipment for a Nerf gun he had ordered, it triggered an intense emotional reaction. While most children would brush it off, for Alex, it was overwhelming. I tried to explain why ordering another gun wouldn’t resolve the issue, but he was beyond processing logic. So, I made the decision to order a second one. It may seem trivial, but refusing would have only heightened his distress, serving no educational purpose.
My default is to guide Alex through life’s challenges, but when he reaches a point of emotional turmoil, I prioritize maintaining peace. If you assume I’m a negligent parent, I understand why you might feel that way, but it’s simply not accurate. My approach is based on a different set of challenges, and I am doing the best I can with the circumstances I face.
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Conclusion
In summary, parenting a child with a mood disorder presents unique challenges that may not align with conventional discipline methods. Understanding, teaching, and adapting strategies are essential in fostering a supportive environment for learning and emotional growth.