As a mother of three boys, I can confidently say my family is complete. While I once contemplated the possibility of having a girl, the reality is that I have chosen to stop expanding our family. Having three children in under three and a half years has been a fulfilling journey, and I often find it exhausting when people inquire if we are planning to try for a girl simply because we have “just” boys.
Our Family Planning Journey
When my partner, Alex, and I discussed starting a family, our focus was never on the gender of our future children. We considered how many kids would be ideal for us, ultimately landing on three as our perfect number. There was never any conversation during my pregnancies about stopping if we had a girl or continuing for another boy. The thought of looking at my newborn and thinking, “Not what I hoped for,” felt completely wrong.
Initially, I had to come to terms with the idea that I would not have a daughter, which was a notion I had always assumed would happen. Nevertheless, I have never felt disappointed with my boys. If a girl had joined our family, I would have loved her just the same, but I never wished any of my boys were girls. At this stage, I am content with our family dynamic, and I do not consider the possibility of another child.
The Pressure to Have a Daughter
Being told we should try for a girl can be frustrating. It implies that my family is somehow lacking without a daughter. If we were expecting another child, I can only imagine how pregnancy hormones would affect my response to those who say, “I hope it’s a girl,” as I would feel compelled to point out the absurdity of such comments. During my third pregnancy, I often wanted to retort, “Would you like him if he’s not?” just to highlight the ridiculousness of their remarks.
I do not feel deprived by having “only” boys; my sons are wonderful and bring so much joy and chaos into our lives. Being a mother to boys is a unique and fulfilling experience, and I embrace it wholeheartedly. My family is complete.
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Conclusion
In summary, as a mother of three boys, I feel my family is complete. The pressure or expectation to have a daughter does not resonate with me, as my sons bring immense joy and fulfillment to my life. Embracing my role as a boy mom, I appreciate the unique experiences that come with raising boys.