As the proud parent of two young girls, I embrace my role as a “girl mom.” Unless fate has other plans, I will continue to be surrounded by all things feminine. I often hear from “boy moms,” those who are the sole women in their households and intend to keep it that way.
These “boy moms” frequently express their admiration for my situation, claiming I’m fortunate to have two charming daughters who embody the classic notions of sweetness and whimsy. Yet, they also offer their condolences for the inevitable dramatic episodes I will face during their teenage years. At times, their sympathy feels patronizing, and I find that condescension grating.
Let’s address some common misconceptions:
- “Boys are so active! You’re lucky to have girls.”
Reality: My younger daughter is a whirlwind of energy—constantly running, climbing, and exploring. She scales furniture, escapes from her seatbelt, and is always in motion. Her energy rivals that of any boy. My older daughter, too, has been described as “affectionately aggressive,” often playing rough and leaving little boys in tears after her enthusiastic hugs. - “Boys are messy. You’re so lucky with your girls!”
Reality: My toddler has a unique talent for finger painting—with her own poop, no less. She has also hosted numerous tea parties using water spit from her sippy cup. It’s not just boys who can be messy; my daughter has proven that point time and time again. - “Girl clothes are adorable! You’re so lucky!”
Reality: My daughters have an abundance of holiday dresses that are short-sleeved and impractical for December. Meanwhile, I long for cozy sweater vests for them. Plus, toddler girls can wear some interesting fashion choices that might not always be flattering. - “I can’t stand all the toy trains! You’re lucky to have girls!”
Reality: While there are no Hot Wheels tracks scattered across my floor, my daughters are just as fascinated by trains and cars. The toys may differ, but the chaos is universal. - “I dread the teenage years; you’re lucky to have boys!”
Reality: I’ve heard my husband recount his teenage escapades, and while I anticipate some drama, I feel confident my daughters won’t be the ones getting into trouble with the law or wreaking havoc in the neighborhood.
When your children test your patience, it’s tempting to believe that others have it easier. However, just because my daughters wear bows in their hair doesn’t mean our household is free of mess and chaos. Every parenting journey comes with its own set of challenges. Let’s embrace the uniqueness of each child and save the boy/girl debates for when they become teenagers. I’ll be the one seeking refuge under the bed.
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Summary:
In the journey of parenting two daughters, I’ve encountered numerous misconceptions about raising girls compared to boys. From energetic toddlers to messy playtime, the challenges are unique yet universal. Each child brings surprises, and we should appreciate the diversity in parenting experiences.