When it comes to parenting, unsolicited advice seems to flow freely from all corners. From choosing the ideal stroller to deciding on extracurricular activities for your elementary-aged child, it can feel overwhelming. After a few years in the parenting trenches, many find themselves dismissing these well-intentioned suggestions. Here are 13 pieces of advice that may not hold much value for parents.
- You must have a specific baby gear. There’s a lot of emphasis on having the right swing, bouncy seat, or bassinet. The truth is, you won’t know which one will work for your baby until it’s the middle of the night and you’re exhausted while your newborn is wide awake.
- Try the “cry it out” method. While some parents swear by this method, it can lead to unforeseen nighttime disturbances. In my experience, my son has taken to shouting in his sleep, which makes the crying method seem less appealing. Perhaps we should consider a “whoa it out” approach instead.
- Limit your child’s screen time. The theory sounds great, but in practice, my toddler has a knack for turning my relaxing shower into a chaotic mess of blocks being thrown at my feet. Given the choice, I might opt for screen time over dodging toys.
- Encourage independent play. While this is generally a good idea, when I ask my kids to entertain themselves, they often find creative (and messy) ways to do so, like taping themselves to furniture.
- Alternate weekend responsibilities with your partner. This sounds reasonable, but the reality is that my kids always seem to wake up at different times, and I’m often the one who hears the faintest sniffle from their room.
- Establish a bedtime routine. We tried this, but it ended up prolonging bedtime by an hour. My own routine? A few snacks and some mindless TV until I eventually fall asleep.
- Be flexible with schedules. Sure, I can be flexible—just as soon as someone else takes care of the meltdowns over dinner. It’s not as simple as it sounds.
- Your son should toughen up. This outdated notion needs to be put to rest. Emotional expression is important, regardless of gender.
- Consider that pricey preschool. While education is vital, digging in the dirt with friends and caregivers should not come at the expense of an arm and a leg.
- Your baby needs a hat. When it comes to baby gear, some suggestions are overly simplistic. Often, the best solution is simply holding them close.
- You should stay home. The desire to stay home with kids is common, but financial realities can make it impractical for many families.
- You should return to work. Finding affordable child care is a challenge. The process of vetting potential caregivers can be daunting and expensive.
- You should always do something. In the end, every parent is doing their best given their unique circumstances. Sometimes, it’s okay to let go of expectations and cut yourself some slack.
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with advice that often misses the mark. Understanding that every family’s needs are different is crucial, and giving yourself grace is perhaps the best advice of all.