As a parent, I often find myself grappling with various strategies that seem straightforward in theory but prove challenging in practice. One such endeavor has been encouraging my children to use the correct anatomical terms for their body parts. My four-year-old son calls his penis a “pee-pee,” and my two-year-old daughter has adopted a similar term for her vagina.
I’ll admit that I’m quite impressionable as a parent; I frequently feel uncertain about my choices. When another parent mentions something like, “I limit my child to four ounces of juice a day, in line with the American Academy of Pediatrics,” I find myself thinking, “Wow, I should probably do that too.” Then, when my child requests a juice box, I tell him he’s already reached his daily limit, and he gives me a look that suggests I’m being unreasonable — and I inevitably relent. So, instead of four ounces, my child might end up with eight or even ten. That’s just how I roll.
Similarly, I once came across an article by a mother who strongly advocates for teaching her children the proper anatomical names for body parts. I found myself thinking she was brilliant. I have no reservations about using the words “penis” or “vagina,” so I committed to avoiding cutesy names when the time came. Another article I read suggested that using euphemisms could instill shame about their bodies in children. I bought this argument wholeheartedly, as that’s the type of parent I am — determined to promote body positivity and openness.
As noted by Dr. Johnson, a pediatric expert, using accurate terminology is crucial: “It’s important to create an environment where your child feels they can approach you with questions, especially concerning sensitive subjects. This lays the foundation for more complex discussions about sexuality as they reach their teenage years.” The thought of jeopardizing my relationship with my son during his teenage years by referring to his penis as a “pee-pee” was alarming.
As time passed, I realized I was still using the term “pee-pee” and decided to rectify this. I sat my son down and explained that his “pee-pee” is actually called a “penis.” Days went by, and it became clear that my timing was off; my attempts to quiz him on the new term led to blank stares and confusion. His expression seemed to say, “What are you talking about, Mom?”
Ultimately, I recognized that we don’t discuss penises frequently enough for this to be a pressing concern. I understand that it’s vital for children to label their body parts accurately to help them communicate if they experience inappropriate behavior. This is a serious matter that I address with my children, having explained to him that he is the only person allowed to touch his own penis. He responded, “Yes, Mommy, I know. No one is allowed to touch my pee-pee but me.”
So, in our household, we don’t prioritize anatomically correct terms. In a world where a bottle is referred to as a “ba-ba,” a pacifier is a “binky,” and Grandma is “Ya-Ya,” does it truly matter? Perhaps this is just another parenting misstep, but I’m comfortable with the idea that “penis” can be part of our playful language.
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In summary, while using anatomical terms for body parts can be important, it’s essential to focus on open communication and trust with your children. Whether they use “pee-pee” or “penis,” what matters most is ensuring they feel safe discussing their bodies with you.