Do you ever think back to the days of intimacy before having kids? I can vividly recall spontaneous encounters on the couch at three in the afternoon, all following an invigorating morning session. Ah, those were certainly memorable times.
Fast forward to today, my partner can forget about intimacy happening several times a day; if I’m being honest, it’s a rare event to happen even multiple times a week. If we’re fortunate, we manage to find time once a week—if luck is truly on our side.
With four children under the age of seven, I am completely drained. Just keeping up with household chores like laundry and dishes feels overwhelming. The thought of being attentive to my partner Eric at night? Not happening. At least not with the same frequency as before.
In the past, intimacy could stretch for hours; now, if we manage to go over 20 minutes, I’m genuinely impressed. We know each other so well that it becomes a quick affair. Why prolong it? I have a baby who wakes up at six in the morning. Plus, I’m always on alert for the sound of little feet running into the room, potentially ruining the moment. There have been times when Eric has abruptly ended things upon seeing a shadow, but at least our kids won’t end up in therapy from such interruptions. How can I truly be passionate when I’m constantly worried about being caught? And even if we manage to lock the door, I have to keep the volume down since the baby is now sleeping in our room.
It feels like an unwinnable situation for both of us. Let’s not even get started on the idea of intimacy with the lights on. My body has been through four c-sections and has nourished four hungry children, leaving my once firm physique looking a bit worse for wear. My breasts have transformed from perky C cups to sagging D cups, while my stomach showcases the remnants of pregnancy in the form of flab and stretch marks. I know, quite the picture of allure.
I genuinely miss those earlier days of intimacy. I yearn for sexy lingerie and alluring nighties that barely covered anything. I miss the evenings when I’d don a tiny cheerleader costume that I owned (and yes, I rocked it!). I miss coming home from work with the anticipation of releasing all my stress that evening.
I often wonder how other mothers manage to balance it all. It’s not that my desire has vanished; it’s simply that the need for sleep tends to take precedence.
So, I’m curious: Is everyone else feeling as worn out as I am? Are we all just putting on a brave face and going through the motions, or is there a genuine chance of reviving intimacy after becoming parents? Because that’s really all I want.
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Summary:
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