The crowded gym scene in January often feels like a punchline. That’s why I’ve decided to abandon the notion of traditional New Year’s resolutions. There’s something almost sheep-like about joining everyone else in a collective promise to change. If I know most will be back to their old habits by February, what makes me think I’ll be different?
In my exploration of why resolutions often fail, I came across insights from life coach Clara Jenkins, author of “Awaken Your Potential: Achieve the Life You Desire.” Jenkins points out that we tend to frame resolutions around what’s “wrong” or “needs fixing” in our lives, often fueled by critical self-judgment and guilt. Many resolutions focus on body transformation, employing guilt as a tool for motivation. But why do we treat ourselves so harshly?
Jenkins advocates for setting New Year’s intentions instead of resolutions. Rather than committing to an unrealistic fitness schedule, like “I will attend yoga class three times a week and jog every other day,” consider framing it as “I intend to move my body more because I enjoy dancing, jogging, or taking a refreshing walk.” And when you inevitably stray from your intention, try not to be overly critical; we all experience setbacks. Setting intentions allows us to honor the supportive voice within us, rather than the relentless, judgmental instructor in our minds.
This leads me to the most crucial intention worth making: Be kinder to yourself. It’s a simple yet powerful promise, and I’m committed to trying if you are too.
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In summary, shifting focus from rigid resolutions to thoughtful intentions can profoundly impact our self-perception and overall well-being. By being gentler with ourselves and setting realistic intentions, we create a healthier mindset for the New Year.