Let’s be real—I’m not immune to the harsh whispers of the fashion world. Some days, I feel heavy, unattractive, and out of place. I think about how I should have put in an extra workout or skipped that dessert. Not too long ago, I was a size 6, but after starting medication, I gradually gained a noticeable 50 pounds over nine months. It crept up on me, and before I knew it, I looked in the mirror and saw what society calls “fat.”
After grappling with my feelings, I began to embrace my new body. I stand 5 feet 6 inches tall and wear a size 14. And let me tell you—I am fabulous.
But here’s a little secret: I don’t always feel fabulous. When I hit those low points, I turn up the Europop and start singing to myself, “Big girl, you’re beautiful / Diet Coke and a pizza please / Diet Coke, I’m on my knees / Screaming, ‘Big girl, you are beautiful!’” This song by Mika isn’t just catchy; it’s a celebration of body positivity. It even mentions The Butterfly Lounge, a pioneering size-acceptance club in Orange County. I call it my personal anthem. Yes, I’m belting it out in my head right now. And believe me, I am fabulous—just as you are.
Seriously, my body is incredible. I have curves that make me unique. Just look at Ashley Graham, who landed the cover of Sports Illustrated at a size 16, or Hunter McGrady, who confidently posed in body paint for the same magazine. And let’s not forget Christina Hendricks, who rocks her size 14 with grace. These women are stunning, and they’re similar in size to me. I mean, I could easily channel my inner Christina Hendricks—no kidding!
I hover between plus-size and large, depending on the brand. I’ve learned to embrace shapewear, not to shrink myself, but to enhance my natural curves. They still wiggle and bounce, but they look more polished. I’ve also figured out what clothes work for me. For instance, I avoid empire waists since I carry more weight in my tummy. But give me a fitted dress, and I feel like a million bucks. I can’t help but notice men turning their heads as I strut down the street. Add a pair of heels, and I feel unstoppable.
It’s important to remember that I never looked in the mirror and saw a “non-person.” I always see a woman who enjoys fashion. I love my red lipstick, gold eyeshadow, and a makeup routine that involves at least 20 steps, not including my hair. No contoured collarbones here—thank you very much. I wear dresses almost every day because they make me feel confident. I deserve to feel good and receive compliments.
And let’s not forget the warmth of family. My kids love to cuddle with me, and I cherish those moments. I think back to how I adored hugging my grandmother, who was soft and comforting. Right now, my toddler is using my thigh as a pillow—it’s a lovely thigh, stretch marks and all. They also love to lay their heads on my belly, which is lovingly adorned with reminders of carrying them. I once felt embarrassed when others assumed I was pregnant because of the wrong outfit. But I learned to dress for my shape, and I’ve grown to love my body’s curves.
I won’t lie; I still have my battles. It can be tough to feel fabulous when people like Milo Yiannopoulos might post an unkind picture of you with a cruel caption. Sometimes, I doubt my husband’s compliments because he married a size 4, not a size 14. But he insists I look amazing, so I work hard to ignore the negativity. Surrounding myself with body positivity helps, and I keep singing Mika in my head. Most importantly, I remind myself that loving the skin you’re in is a basic human right. Every curve, every jiggle, every stretch mark is part of me, and I am beautiful. Yes, I am fabulous.
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Summary
This blog celebrates body positivity and self-acceptance, encouraging readers to love their bodies regardless of societal standards. It emphasizes that every individual is beautiful and deserving of confidence, regardless of size.