When my partner, Jake, and I discovered we were expecting baby number three, we were completely taken aback. Just weeks before those two little pink lines appeared, we had confidently donated the last remnants of our baby gear. We thought we were ready to embrace life as a family of four. Little did we know, right?
Our two older children were ecstatic about the arrival of a new sibling, and soon enough, Jake and I began to warm up to the idea too. However, the realization hit us hard that we would need to replenish all the baby items we had recently passed along. Cue the mild panic.
With the excitement of a new addition comes the inevitable chatter about names, swaddling, nursing, and all those adorable outfits that make baby fever contagious. Naturally, the topic of a baby shower arose. But as we discussed the options, we found ourselves hesitating.
Initially, we considered hosting a relaxed baby shower focused solely on hand-me-downs. The thought of receiving cherished baby items and beloved books from friends warmed my heart. But as we moved toward registering for new items, I realized that my vision of a simple gathering wasn’t going to materialize.
After some deliberation, we decided to forgo the traditional baby shower in favor of a “meet the baby” gathering—essentially, a baby sprinkle. This concept has gained popularity, especially in Europe, where it’s more common to celebrate after the baby is born. For instance, in France, friends and family wait until the little one arrives before bringing gifts for both mom and baby.
Let me be clear: I’m not materialistic. I’m just trying to avoid the overwhelming collection of baby items that often accumulate through well-meaning intentions and clearance sales. Jake and I have been gradually purchasing the essentials like a baby carrier, car seat, crib, and cloth diapers. My list of needed items is short, and I keep it on the fridge as a reminder of what we truly need.
As I approach the third trimester, it has become clear to me what I genuinely desire: the love and support of friends and family to celebrate this new life we’re bringing into the world. The French way of celebrating once the baby is here resonates deeply with me. I envision all the heartfelt moments—passing our little one into the arms of loved ones, exchanging smiles and laughter.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a traditional American baby shower—I have wonderful memories of mine. They serve an important purpose, helping new families gather necessary items for those early months. But for this final pregnancy (yes, I mean it this time!), I’m all about focusing on the love and welcome we can give our new arrival. Instead of gifts, I want stories, hugs, and maybe a few casseroles.
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In summary, we are opting for a baby sprinkle this time around, celebrating the arrival of our new child with love and support from friends and family instead of focusing on material items. This approach feels right for us in this final chapter of our growing family.