My 10-year-old daughter, Lily, crept into the bathroom while I was getting ready for the day. It was clear something was bothering her. I paused what I was doing and asked her what was wrong. After some hesitation, she mumbled about a nightmare and then fell silent. I waited patiently for her to continue.
She finally spoke, “I dreamed that someone dangerous came into our school and….” Her voice trailed off, leaving a heavy silence in the air.
I recalled a recent notice from the school about an active shooter drill. I asked her if that was what was haunting her thoughts, and she nodded, her gaze fixed on the floor. In a barely audible whisper, she admitted, “Mom, I’m scared to go to school.”
Her words pierced my heart. She had been exposed to a harsh reality that I had tried to shield her from for as long as possible.
There was once a time when we introduced our children to the darker aspects of life gradually, through stories and history. We had them read classics like Charlotte’s Web and The Giver, discussing difficult topics such as loss and injustice in a controlled manner. Now, my daughter’s fear that something terrible could happen to her at school shattered my protective instincts. I wanted to assure her that such things could never occur here, but I held back.
Lily was in first grade during the tragic Sandy Hook shooting. While I cannot fathom the grief that those families endured, I know the shockwaves were felt far and wide, even in my small town. Dropping her off at school after that day was heart-wrenching, and I couldn’t hold back the tears that streamed down my cheeks. I wept for those families and for the day my innocent daughter would realize the world could be a frightening place.
This week, our local police chief spoke to the elementary classes, and I knew the topic of Sandy Hook would come up. I trusted that the school would handle the discussion delicately, aiming to educate rather than instill fear. Yet, despite their best efforts, my sensitive and anxious Lily was still struggling.
I took her in my arms, taking a moment to gather my thoughts before speaking. “Lily, I love you. The day you were born was the best day of my life. But being a parent means facing fears for you that I never anticipated. Some days, I wish I could wrap you in bubble wrap to keep you safe. I share your fears; I too worry about you. All I want is for you and your siblings to lead a long, fulfilling life with minimal suffering.”
“The world has many good people. Most want the same for their families as we do. But there are also those who cause harm. It’s our responsibility to be vigilant and protect ourselves from those threats.”
Fear can be a formidable force. Some governments manipulate it to control their citizens, but we are fortunate to live in a place where we can think freely. However, that freedom sometimes brings chaos. You must decide whether to let fear consume you or acknowledge it and move forward with your life.
In my work at hospitals, I often plan for potential disasters, preparing for the worst possible scenarios. Before each procedure, I pack a bag with necessary tools for emergencies. I hope I never have to use it, but I know it’s there, just like the safety drills at school. I hope you never have to experience a real crisis, but if it comes, it’s essential to be prepared and know what to do.
I regret that we live in a world where such precautions are necessary. I wish it were different. I held her close until she nodded, reassuring her to get ready for school. I reminded her that we live in a wonderful community, knowing full well that such reassurances don’t guarantee safety.
I asked her for evidence that she wasn’t safe, and she admitted there was none. I felt guilty for comforting her in a world I can’t control. After countless hugs and kisses, I watched her head off to get dressed, then quietly closed the door and let the tears flow again.
Then, I gathered myself, packed my emotional suitcase, and prayed to every deity I could think of that I would never have to open it.
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In summary, conversations about active shooter drills can evoke significant fear in children, exposing them to harsh realities of the world. As parents, we must balance the need for preparedness with the desire to protect their innocence. It’s a challenging journey, but essential for their safety and well-being.