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I wanted to take a moment to share some thoughts with you. Just yesterday, after a particularly challenging week, you looked at me with that frazzled expression and mentioned that you “need a break.” I get it. We’ve all been there. Life has thrown quite a few curveballs our way recently.

Let’s be real: the past few weeks have been a whirlwind. I’ve been buried in a massive work project, our three-year-old is bouncing off the walls, and you’ve been picking up a considerable amount of the household duties. I totally understand that the antibiotic our little one is on led to a messy situation right after you put him to bed, which interrupted your well-deserved downtime to watch basketball. It’s been rough, no doubt about it.

Working long hours isn’t exactly my favorite thing, and I’m sure you can’t stand the chaos of preparing lunches, whipping up meals, and leaving notes for the babysitter at the crack of dawn.

Amid the craziness, there’s a little detail I think you might have overlooked: I’m pregnant. While I won’t fault you for not understanding the depth of exhaustion that comes with carrying another human, I’ve been feeling tired for quite some time now. So, yes, I can definitely roll with this.

I know that aside from that one time I convinced you to join me on The Whole30, you might struggle to relate to the fact that I can’t just crack open a beer to cope with it all. I see you enjoying one while our son is busy turning the dog’s bowl into a juice fountain, but I digress.

Embracing the Chaos Ahead

Here’s the thing: life is about to get even more chaotic. In just a few months, we’ll welcome another little one into our family. That means sleepless nights ahead, as the baby will wake our toddler, who will then “share” his juice with the dog, who will likely be forgotten in the midst of the storm.

Unlike our first journey into parenthood, we’ll have an extra kiddo who needs to be dropped off at daycare, fed something other than breast milk, and taken to soccer practice. We might feel so cooped up that we’ll be squabbling over who gets to take the recycling out.

And just as we start to find our rhythm, I’ll head back to work. We’ll be juggling schedules for two kids in daycare, and the usual work commitments will resurface. Just when things seem manageable, your car might break down, the roof could leak, and the washing machine might flood the house.

But here’s the silver lining: eventually, things will settle down. We will establish a routine, create color-coded calendars, and share those post-bedtime beers we’ve been dreaming about. But wait—there’s more! In just a short year and a half, our oldest will be starting kindergarten, followed by first grade, and then the cycle continues for the next 13 years, bringing homework, sports, drama clubs, and an avalanche of commitments.

If our little ones take after you, they might be sneaking drinks in our basement by high school; if they take after me, they might be overly sensitive and struggle to find their groove in swing choir. Either way, it’s going to be a constant balancing act.

I hope they’ll eventually go to college or find a trade that allows them to live independently by 18, but let’s be honest—many kids today are still at home well into their 20s. By 2032, we could have kids who are practically squatters in our house until they hit their mid-30s!

So, by my calculations, you might not get that break you’re looking for until you hit 67. Right now, this is the easiest it’s going to be for the next three decades.

I’m sharing this with you not just to highlight the wild ride that lies ahead, but to remind you that this is the life we’ve chosen. So let’s embrace the chaos, lean on one another, and navigate this journey together. Let’s focus on the joy amidst the madness and always remember how fortunate we are to experience it all. I love us, and I know you do too, so let’s toughen up!

P.S. Oh, and our little one just dropped your phone in the toilet.

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Summary

This letter addresses the shared struggles and chaos of family life, emphasizing the importance of embracing the journey together. It highlights the challenges that come with parenting and offers reassurance that, despite the madness, there is joy to be found in the experience.

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