By: Emily Hartman
Last year, I reached a tipping point with my work-life balance, prompting me to walk away from my job. Remarkably, just two months later, I found myself back in the same position—but this time, I had the upper hand. While I may have seemed like a corporate boomerang, that break allowed me to catch my breath and truly evaluate what I want for my career and family life. Here are five key lessons I learned during my time away from the office:
1. The Other Side Isn’t Always Better.
Having the chance to experience both working and staying at home gave me unique insight. The challenges of being a working mom and a stay-at-home mom are both significant. I often envied those mothers who seemed to have a more leisurely lifestyle, whether it was attending yoga classes or strolling through parks. However, after spending time at home in my comfy workout clothes, I found myself longing for the structure and rhythm of my work routine. Surprisingly, I even began to appreciate the quiet moments I once took for granted during my commute—like listening to NPR, despite a few bumps along the way, such as getting rear-ended on the highway!
2. Speaking Up is Essential.
I tend to be a people-pleaser, often saying yes to everything until I reach a breaking point. After leaving my position, the magazine I worked for brought in a new publisher who initiated some positive changes. When he reached out to me about returning, I realized I had nothing to lose. That moment gave me the courage to ask for what I really needed—flexibility and the ability to work from home. To my surprise, he agreed!
3. Let Go of Mom Guilt.
Being at home meant I could take my son on field trips and spend quality time with my younger child, which was incredibly rewarding. I learned from other moms that it’s okay to have adult conversations and not entertain the kids constantly. In fact, taking breaks from them made me a more patient and fun parent. I also realized that staying at home didn’t magically solve my son’s behavioral issues; instead, I found that he thrived with some independence and structure, reminding me that I have needs too.
4. It’s Okay to Say No.
As a perfectionist, saying no has always been a struggle for me. Whether it’s participating in my husband’s work events, attending friends’ gatherings, or helping with school activities, I learned the importance of prioritizing my well-being. If I’m feeling overwhelmed, it’s perfectly acceptable to decline invitations. This practice helps me maintain balance and avoid burnout.
5. Pursuing What I Love Matters.
When I decided to return to work, I needed to explain this to my children. I told them that the magazine needed my skills and that my new boss was supportive of my family commitments. I emphasized that it’s crucial for me to engage in work that I’m passionate about, especially since I spent years honing my craft. After a fulfilling day, I’m more present and engaged with my family. It’s a win-win situation.
In summary, taking the leap to leave my job ultimately led to a deeper understanding of my needs and values as a mother and a professional. Whether you’re navigating the complexities of parenting or considering your career path, know that it’s important to do what feels right for you. For more insights on balancing work and family life, check out this excellent resource on home insemination and pregnancy. Remember, it’s all about finding that sweet spot where you can thrive.