As a physical therapist with over 15 years of experience, I’ve encountered a diverse array of senior citizens. Injuries affect everyone, so I’ve had the privilege of working with older individuals from all walks of life: some are vibrant and healthy, while others are struggling. They each carry a wealth of life experiences that often spark rich conversations during our therapy sessions.
While I worked with them on shoulder exercises or core strengthening, they frequently shared their wisdom on various topics—especially relationships. I was newly married myself, and when I met couples who had been together for decades and still seemed genuinely happy, I couldn’t help but ask them for their secrets.
The advice I received was as varied as the couples themselves. Some men would joke, “Marry someone who’s funny and attractive!” while their wives would roll their eyes, proving that men often remain the same no matter their age. Others suggested, “Choose a partner who’s different from you; it keeps things interesting!” or offered simple yet profound wisdom like, “Always kiss goodnight, even if you’re angry.”
One couple stood out in particular. The husband, impeccably dressed in suspenders and a bowtie, was attentive to his wife, who laughed at his jokes as if they were hearing them for the first time. They looked at each other with a warmth that suggested deep affection after 30 years of marriage. When I asked them about their lasting bond, the husband candidly shared, “In my first marriage, I thought I had to be ‘the man’ and make all the decisions. This time, we decided she’s the boss, and it works for us.”
This heartfelt exchange came to mind recently when I stumbled across Suzanne Venker’s rather outdated advice about women being “more compliant” in marriages, suggesting men are naturally “alpha” while women should play the “beta” role. Honestly, I couldn’t help but chuckle. I’d much rather take the wisdom from that charming couple than listen to Venker. Their perspective on partnership—especially their tongue-in-cheek remark about avoiding the paint aisle at Home Depot together—has become a cornerstone of my own relationship philosophy.
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In summary, while some advice may come from a place of tradition, it’s often the genuine connections and mutual respect that truly hold relationships together. Let the wisdom of those who have walked the path before guide you, not outdated stereotypes.