Ever found yourself driving with your kids when that perfect song comes on the radio, only to have them suddenly turn the car into a chaos zone? Just the other day, while driving home from a shopping trip with my three tweens, I had that experience. I had treated them to some “lavish” gifts—by which I mean we spent a significant amount of time in the Dollar Spot and toy aisle, with me taking bathroom breaks while they debated how to spend their Christmas gift cards.
As parents, we often endure these moments because we want our children to have enjoyable experiences. I even added Icees and soft pretzels into the mix to up the fun factor. But when Phil Collins’s “Against All Odds” started playing, I just wanted a moment to soak it in. Instead, my request for a little quiet so I could enjoy the nostalgia was met with eye rolls and complaints about how “old-fashioned” the song was. Seriously? After enduring hours of their indecision, I felt it was my turn to enjoy a moment of bliss.
In the past, when they were younger and would chatter away during songs, I would simply indulge their whims, choosing to share stories instead of insisting on my own moment of musical enjoyment. But those days are behind me. My kids are now at an age where I can expect a little quiet while I relish my favorite tunes. They’ve grown to understand that not everything revolves around them, and it’s time for me to reclaim some of the nice things in life.
You Can Indulge in Good Food
When I buy myself a treat, like exquisite chocolate, I don’t hide it away anymore. Thanks to my kids’ reading skills, a simple note on the wrapper serves as a gentle reminder to keep their hands off my stash. The days of sharing everything just to maintain peace are behind me; they know better now. Yes, I can be a bit selfish, but I’ve earned that right.
You Can Wear Nice Clothes
Gone are the days of disposable outfits. I’ve moved on from being a human napkin. Now that my kids are older and no longer in the toddler phase, I take pride in dressing nicely. My daughter may borrow some of my clothes, but she knows to ask first, and I maintain certain pieces as off-limits. It’s important for kids to learn respect for belongings, especially for things that aren’t theirs.
You Can Use Your Phone Again
I used to hand over my phone to distract them, but now it’s my personal device, essential for work and sometimes filled with conversations that would raise eyebrows. Thankfully, they have their own devices now, so no need to share mine.
You Can Enjoy a Luxurious Shower
Taking a long, relaxing shower is now a reality. My kids understand that when the bathroom door is closed, I’m off-limits unless it’s an emergency. After years of sneaking in and out of the shower while keeping an eye on them, it’s a relief to finally have that time to myself again.
You Can Keep a Tidy Home
Now, when my kids make a mess, they’re responsible for cleaning it up. They can wash their own clothes, tidy up their spaces, and do their dishes. They’re learning that if they leave a mess, they’ll be the ones to scrub it away. It’s a win-win; a clean house and kids who are becoming more responsible.
If you’re currently in the phase of “we absolutely cannot have nice things,” don’t lose hope. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself back to enjoying the finer things in life. After years of enduring broken items and chocolate raids, you’ll appreciate the newfound respect your older kids have for nice belongings.
Embrace this next stage; it’s not just about reclaiming nice things but also about teaching your children valuable life skills. Enjoy those moments when your favorite song plays, reminding you of who you are outside of motherhood.
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Summary
As your children grow older, you’ll find the freedom to enjoy nice things again—be it food, clothing, or even a peaceful shower. With newfound responsibilities, they learn to respect personal belongings and contribute to maintaining a tidy home. This shift is not just a relief but also a rewarding part of the parenting journey that allows you to reclaim your identity outside of motherhood.