In the realm of modern dating, it’s common to bond over shared interests, but what if the secret to lasting love lies in what you both despise? Enter Hater, a revolutionary dating app designed to connect people based on their mutual dislikes. As someone who’s been in a long-term relationship, I can vouch that having a common ground in what you can’t stand is just as vital as enjoying the same hobbies.
The Hater app is a game-changer. Currently available in beta for free, I decided to give it a whirl while lounging at home this weekend—mainly out of curiosity and not to find a fling. The app is refreshingly simple to use. A topic pops up on your screen, and you swipe accordingly: swipe up for love, swipe down for hate, left for dislike, and right for like. If you find yourself indifferent (like about men wearing necklaces, say), you can simply skip the question. After making your choices, you can check out how others responded, adding an engaging layer to your experience—sorry, Tinder, but this feels a lot more entertaining!
The range of topics is eclectic, covering everything from risqué subjects like “anal” and “69” to serious discussions about “activism” and “abortion.” You’ll even encounter quirky questions about “Alanis Morissette” and “people who walk too slowly.” I discovered that I truly cannot stand air conditioners that shut off unexpectedly. It’s surprising how these little annoyances can have a significant impact on your relationships.
Once you’ve given your opinions on several topics, you can create a profile that captures your unique “hater” personality. It allows you to showcase your top hates, loves, likes, and dislikes, giving potential matches a clear picture of your preferences. Imagine if they expanded this concept to help moms connect with each other! Instead of awkward small talk during school drop-off, you could swipe to find someone who appreciates leggings and 90s hip-hop but can’t stand under-tippers—just like you.
Brendan Alper, the founder and CEO of Hater, expressed his desire to make online dating enjoyable again. “Online dating has become so monotonous,” he explained. “Everyone just goes through the motions. We want to bring back that fun element.” Only time will tell if Hater can help people find true love through shared aversions, but I had my husband try it with me for kicks, and we matched perfectly. After nearly a decade of rolling our eyes at the same things, it looks like this app is on to something.
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In summary, Hater could be the fresh perspective on dating that many have been craving. It emphasizes the importance of not just what you love, but what you both can’t stand, which might just be the foundation for a solid relationship.