“NO!” My daughter beams as she exclaims it, almost like she’s sharing a delightful secret or rekindling a long-forgotten memory. The word rolls off her tongue with such conviction; there’s no mistaking her intent. Our conversations have taken on a new rhythm:
“Would you like some carrots?”
“No!”
“Shall we go outside?”
“No!”
“Time for a bath?”
“No!”
She revels in her newfound ability to express her preferences. Even when offered her favorite snacks, she joyfully shouts “No!” just to enjoy the sound of her own voice. “Would you like a cookie?”
“No!”
“Want to play with Mommy?”
“No!”
I can’t help but smile as I witness her joy in asserting herself. Much like I was as a child, she is unafraid to voice her opinions. She enthusiastically proclaims her “No!” to the world, and I wonder if this fearless spirit is something I’ll need to help her maintain.
While many parents might discourage such boldness with gentle reminders like, “Be nice,” or try to reframe every “No!” into a tentative “Yes?” I choose to celebrate her assertiveness. Each “No!” she expresses fills me with hope. This year has shown me the importance of such fearlessness, especially for a girl navigating this challenging world. Perhaps I’ll find that I’m the one learning from her.
Listening to her spirited declarations brings back memories of my own childhood, reminding me of the girl who also understood the power of saying “No.” Over the years, societal expectations have often pushed women to be agreeable and quiet, but my daughter’s expanding vocabulary has reignited my desire to reclaim my voice. I resolve to reintroduce “No!” into my own vocabulary—loudly and unapologetically. This is a time for standing firm, rather than yielding.
Embracing the word “No” will create space for what truly matters in my life. Just last week, my little one’s favorite word was “Mama.” She exclaimed it thousands of times a day, greeting me with joyous chants of “Ma! Ma!” and reaching out for hugs. It felt as if I had two biggest fans cheering me on—my younger daughter and her older sister.
By harnessing the power of “No,” I can prioritize my time and focus on what’s most significant to me as a mom, wife, and business owner. I’m reminded that how I spend my time is my choice, albeit sometimes a challenging one, but one I don’t need to justify.
Saying “No” is an act of kindness we can extend to ourselves. It allows us to hear our own voice and follow its guidance. This mechanism helps protect our priorities from being lost in the chaos of our busy lives. While we often think of discovery as seizing every opportunity, it can also mean being selective. Rediscovering the joy of “No” is essential for our happiness as mothers. If you’re seeking more insights on this journey, check out this other piece on navigating motherhood.
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In summary, my toddler’s bold proclamations of “No!” have inspired me to rediscover my own voice and the importance of speaking up. Embracing this word allows me to carve out time for what matters most and reminds me that it’s perfectly acceptable to set boundaries.