Let’s face it: the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) leaves much to be desired, particularly for working mothers. I consider myself fortunate, as I reside in a state that offers an additional six weeks of maternity leave, granting me a total of 12 weeks to bond with my little one—though it’s still a far cry from what many other countries provide.
If you’re not in a state like California, which adds a seemingly generous extension to the standard six weeks of disability leave (available to only some), know that you’re definitely not alone. You might even be one of the 25% of American mothers who head back to work just two weeks after giving birth, often before their newborn can even hold up their own head. Even more concerning, about 40% of mothers are not eligible for FMLA at all. Sure, you can technically take 12 weeks to care for your baby, but don’t expect your job to be waiting for you when you return; it’s not guaranteed. Then there are the 61% whose jobs are protected yet still can’t take the full 12 weeks due to financial pressures, as many maternity leaves are unpaid, or at best, offer only 60% of your regular salary.
This brings me back to those of us who are the “lucky” ones—moms like me who can afford to stay home for a full 12 weeks, relying on savings and generous gift cards from baby stores. But before you feel envious, let’s take a moment to consider what this so-called “generous” 12 weeks really entails for us.
Right now, I’m typing this on my smartphone while my 10-week-old daughter, Emma, sleeps soundly on my lap after nursing. She’s nestled against me instead of lying in her crib because my time with her is quickly running out. In just two weeks, I’ll be back at work, and she’ll be joining her siblings at daycare. Our days together are numbered, and we’ve known this from the very beginning.
Eight weeks ago, when Emma was just a two-week-old baby, breastfeeding transitioned from an exhausting routine to a beautiful bonding experience. However, I quickly realized that I had only ten weeks left to build up a supply of breast milk before returning to work, where I’d have to pump during the day. This meant digging out my breast pump, sterilizing everything, and figuring out how to balance pumping with nursing, caring for Emma, attending to my other children, and trying to maintain some semblance of a household.
Let’s be real: it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. These moments with my little one are filled with both joy and anxiety. While I cherish our snuggles, I’m also painfully aware that I need to prepare her for daycare, which means getting her accustomed to napping on her own. I’ve been promising myself I’d start this for weeks now, but with the clock ticking, it’s becoming more urgent.
Fast forward to Emma’s four-week milestone. I eagerly take photos and share them online, basking in the likes and comments, only to be reminded again that I have just eight more weeks with her. As I immerse myself in her development, I also have to introduce a bottle to prepare her for daycare in six weeks. This is a bittersweet transition, knowing that I’m already halfway through our time together.
By week seven, the bottle becomes a challenge. I search for tips online and try various methods, hoping to resolve the situation before my time runs out. Fast forward to week nine, and my little one has decided she only wants to be held by me—great for bonding but not ideal for my impending return to work.
Tomorrow marks Emma’s 10-week milestone. I’m typing with one hand while she nurses, aware of the laundry piling up and the clock counting down to when I need to pick up my other child from daycare. Time feels precious, yet I have to remind myself that soon, I’ll only see her in short bursts between work, chores, and the routine of life.
Why does this matter? Because in America, we don’t truly have maternity leave. Unlike the 36 countries that provide working mothers with a full year of paid leave, we’re left with minimal support, often forced to leave our infants long before we’re ready. For most of us, there’s simply no alternative.
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In summary, maternity leave in the U.S. is a complicated and often frustrating reality for many working mothers. While some may find themselves fortunate enough to enjoy a brief period of leave, the overwhelming majority face a system that makes returning to work long before they—or their newborns—are ready a harsh reality.