As a parent, I wholeheartedly believe in encouraging my children to express their true selves—within reason, of course. I love to say “Yes!” to their ideas and nurture their individuality. But I also have boundaries, which I make clear: “I want to support you, but rules are necessary because I’m still your parent. Let’s not go overboard.”
Isn’t that what we all aspire for our kids? To feel free enough to showcase who they are? I tend to lean towards “yes” more than “no,” and while I take pride in that, I’m not afraid to intervene when their ideas go off the rails. After all, that’s part of our role as parents: to guide them, to help them avoid poor choices, and to keep them from looking foolish—all while allowing their unique personalities to shine through.
Creative Expression
For example, if my son decides to grow his hair into a man bun, or my daughter wants to go for a vibrant undercut, I’m all in. Hand me the hair dye or the clippers; I might even want to join in! However, once they suggest shaving something inappropriate into their hair, that’s where I draw the line.
Music Matters
When it comes to music, I usually take a laid-back approach. I know what the kids are into, just like I was at their age, dancing in front of the mirror to iconic hits. I want them to feel confident and fabulous too. However, if I catch my son blasting lyrics that objectify women, I will swiftly take that speaker away—90s style. That kind of disrespect is not tolerated in our home, and I want them to understand its unacceptability.
Clothing Choices
I promote freedom of expression in their clothing choices, too. If my daughter thinks it’s cool to wear a T-shirt with an inappropriate slogan, I’ll make sure it never sees the light of day—no matter her age.
Open Communication
I want my kids to feel comfortable discussing their feelings with me, even when they think I’m being unfair. They can express their frustrations respectfully, and I’ll always listen. But if they start hurling insults like “You suck!” or “This house is awful,” they might find themselves facing a reality check—such as scrubbing the bathroom with a toothbrush. Respectful dialogue is key; I’m not a punching bag.
Finding the Balance
So, yes, you can be a supportive “Yes Mom” while still establishing boundaries. The old adage “children should be seen and not heard” is outdated and damaging. We want our kids to feel empowered to make decisions, yet sometimes I feel like a doormat. When that happens, I remind myself that finding the right balance between allowing them to learn and guiding them is a tough but necessary job.
Thankfully, I still manage to say yes more often than not, which adds joy to our family dynamics. It’s all about finding that middle ground. So, bring on the scissors and turn up the music!
Additional Resources
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In summary, being a supportive parent while setting clear boundaries is crucial. Encourage your children’s self-expression, but don’t hesitate to step in when necessary. It’s all part of the adventure of parenthood.