As a mom, wife, and friend, I wear many hats. I’m emotional, sometimes impatient, and I genuinely care about others. I thrive on coffee, have zero interest in yoga, and, let’s be honest, I’ve got a bit of a potty mouth. Okay, maybe more than just a bit. I’m that unapologetically bold mom who swears like a sailor, and frankly, I have no plans to change. After all, I’m an adult and I’ll do what I please.
There are countless moms out there who are fed up with being told to “act like a lady.” Seriously? We just want to be ourselves. I’ve never understood the fuss people make over swearing. If it’s not malicious or derogatory, who’s really hurt by a well-timed “dammit” or “what the heck”?
But while swearing can be liberating, not everyone shares that sentiment. There are certain unspoken rules about swearing that can complicate parenthood. However, us candid moms form a unique sisterhood, and we need to support each other. So, without further ado, here’s your guide to navigating parenthood with a sprinkle of profanity:
Your Kids Will Surprise You with Their Spelling Skills
Nothing quite prepares you for the moment when you realize your little ones have picked up on your choice words. You’ll long for the days when you could let loose with f-u-c-k-i-n-g without a care in the world, and your kids were none the wiser. Kids are like tiny spies; they hear everything. So brace yourself for an unexpected “what the heck” at the most inappropriate moment. Just laugh it off. Even those prim and proper moms can’t help but chuckle when a toddler drops a surprise swear bomb in public.
Teach Your Kids Swearing Etiquette
Speaking of kids repeating everything, it’s essential to teach them the right and wrong contexts for swearing. Some parents enforce a strict “no swearing” policy, but I prefer the “don’t be a jerk” approach. If my kid wants to let out a few “damn its” when his toy breaks, so be it. However, they know that if I get a call from school about their language, there will be consequences. And for goodness’ sake, if you’re going to swear, make sure it’s appropriate. There’s nothing worse than an out-of-place curse word.
Mind Your Language at Parent-Teacher Conferences
Unless you’re eager to earn the title of “that mom,” be careful with your language at those meetings. It’s not necessarily a bad label, but it’s one you might want to avoid.
Don’t Let the Naysayers Dim Your Spark
Sadly, not everyone appreciates a good curse word the way we do. Some people clutch their pearls at the mere mention of “hell” or “crap.” It’s crucial to stand your ground. You can either tone it down to keep the peace or crank it up and see if they can handle it.
Swearing Can Enhance Your Day
If you’re worried that your brain is turning to mush from watching kids’ shows on repeat, swearing can be your reminder that you’re an adult. Facing a toddler meltdown? Curse your way through it and remember you’re a fierce mom who can handle anything. If you’re having one of those weeks where everything feels like a struggle and your partner just called to say they’ll be late while you’re out of wine and chocolate, let it out! Swearing can feel like a comforting hug and a pep talk rolled into one. So when the going gets tough, reach out to a fellow candid mom and vent. Because you know swearing can really help.
This article was originally published on Dec. 29, 2023. If you’re looking for more informative reads, check out this post about parenting challenges.
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Summary:
This guide celebrates the candid and unapologetic side of motherhood. It encourages moms to embrace their true selves, including their colorful language, while navigating the challenges of parenting. From dealing with kids who pick up on swearing to knowing when to use it appropriately, this handbook is a supportive reminder that every mom is doing her best in a world full of expectations.