The holiday season can pose significant challenges for families with children on the autism spectrum. Combine an extended break from school, bustling family gatherings, overwhelming sensory inputs, and an array of food that may not be palatable due to sensory sensitivities, and you have a situation ripe for meltdowns.
As a parent of twin boys with autism, I can attest that Christmas isn’t always the most autism-friendly holiday. However, we’ve learned to navigate these events while preserving our sanity and humor. Here are some strategies that may help you create a more enjoyable holiday experience:
1. Arrive Early:
Get to your destination before the crowd arrives. This gives your child a chance to adjust to the new environment and find a comfortable spot. Transitioning can be challenging, so allow plenty of time for your child to settle in.
2. Pack Familiar Food:
Bring along meals or snacks your child enjoys. For us, that often means a simple fruit salad — just plain fruit, no sauces or extra toppings. In the past, we’ve taken everything from lunch meats to homemade chicken nuggets. While it might not be traditional holiday fare, it ensures that everyone is fed without stress.
3. Consider Hosting:
If it’s feasible, hosting the holiday at your home can alleviate a lot of stress. You can control the environment, and it’s easier to keep an eye on your kids. Plus, you can ask guests to contribute a dish, making it a team effort.
4. Provide Activities:
Having engaging activities is crucial. We often bring our gaming console, which allows our boys to unwind and play familiar games while the adults socialize. This helps prevent boredom and reduces the chance of disruptive behaviors.
5. Create a Quiet Eating Space:
Sometimes, children with autism may need to eat in a quieter setting away from the bustling dining area. Designate a calm space where they can enjoy their meals without feeling overwhelmed.
6. Maintain Routines:
Holidays can disrupt regular schedules, increasing anxiety levels. Try to keep routines consistent wherever possible. For instance, engaging in regular tasks, like taking out the recycling, can provide comfort and stability.
7. Communicate Your Needs:
Don’t hesitate to let family and friends know what assistance you need. Whether it’s a designated quiet space or a helping hand, most people are willing to support you once they understand your needs.
8. Be Flexible:
Not every gathering will go as planned. Recognize when it’s time to leave before the situation escalates to a meltdown. It’s okay to prioritize your family’s comfort over social expectations.
9. Cultivate Gratitude:
Amid the stress, take a moment to appreciate the positives — being together, the small victories, and even the humor in unexpected situations. Focus on the little things, like a warm drink or a quiet moment to reflect.
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In summary, while Christmas may not be the easiest holiday for families with autism, with the right preparation and mindset, you can navigate the festivities with greater ease and joy.