“When are you planning to have children?”
If you’re a woman, particularly one who is married, this question likely comes your way more often than you’d like. For those grappling with infertility, hearing this inquiry can feel downright infuriating, especially when the asker has no clue about the emotional turmoil you’ve been navigating in pursuit of that coveted BFP (Big Fat Positive).
Here’s how many women facing infertility genuinely wish to reply to the incessant, “When will you have kids?” question:
- When my hysterosalpingogram confirms my fallopian tubes are open, and I’ve just administered a hefty HCG trigger shot to stimulate ovulation, all while sperm that’s been meticulously processed is introduced into my body to reach the eggs I’ve spent weeks preparing with injectable FSH medications.
- Seriously, how dare you ask?
- When I’m under general anesthesia for egg retrieval, having undergone countless injections beforehand, and those eggs are fertilized in a lab after my husband provided his sample in a rather awkward setting.
- Hmm, when do you think it would be appropriate for me to have kids?
- As soon as I can find a way to actually get pregnant.
- Whenever you decide to stop asking such intrusive questions.
- I’m still figuring that out. Want to reach out to my reproductive endocrinologist for me? I can provide a release form. It might take a week or so for them to respond, thanks to HIPAA regulations, but they could share insights about my upcoming treatments and blood work.
- We just tried this morning, but it’s a bit too soon to tell anything.
- I might just stare blankly at you, let out a few incoherent sounds until you’re genuinely concerned, then go silent again. Just watch you squirm until you walk away, bewildered and hopefully hesitant to ask someone else that question in the future.
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In summary, infertility is a sensitive topic that can evoke strong emotions, and many women have profound, thoughtful responses to the seemingly simple question about having kids. It’s crucial to approach such conversations with empathy and awareness of the struggles that others may be facing.