As the year comes to a close, it’s a natural time to reflect on our lives and think about ways we can improve. We often make personal resolutions—some lofty, some attainable. Yet, it seems like my list typically includes the usual fitness goals that may fizzle out by the end of the first week. I also find myself promising to keep my cool when the kids start testing my patience, and to spend more quality time with my partner. But let’s face it, those good intentions often get derailed by the chaos of school activities and social obligations.
Recently, I took a moment to ponder my role in the family dynamics. It hit me that I’m not the one who needs to have a serious chat about behavior in our household. I’m not the one who loses track of laundry hampers or thinks cleaning dishes means rinsing a few. I’m also not the one who storms out of the room in a huff. No, I’m the one managing the aftermath of these behaviors, and I’m sure many of you can relate.
So, instead of focusing on self-improvement, let’s redirect our energy toward making some family resolutions that everyone can benefit from. Here’s my list:
- Clean Up After Yourselves
We don’t live in a palace, so let’s keep our space tidy. The laundry basket is right there—use it! And those shoes left in the middle of the hallway? They’re a tripping hazard. If I get hurt, who will pick up the slack? Right, you will! - Dispose of Your Trash Properly
I appreciate the thought, but I don’t need your snack wrappers and empty drink containers handed to me when a garbage can is within reach. Take the extra step to find it. - Help Out More
To my dear partner, if you’re looking for affection, maybe lend a hand around the house first. It’s called teamwork, and it makes a difference! - Show Some Gratitude
Kids, dining options weren’t always as accommodating as they are now. If dinner isn’t your favorite, just eat it or make something yourself. I’m your parent, not your chef! - Take Responsibility for Homework
Let’s be real—homework is part of your job as a student. Instead of complaining, embrace it. And remember to be kind while doing so! - Participate Actively as Parents
Engaging with your children is not heroic; it’s a parental duty. Don’t act like you’re doing me a favor when you help out with the kids. We both made them! - Tie Your Own Shoes
Everyone in this house is capable of tying their own shoes. If you trip over those laces, you’ll understand why it’s essential to take that time for yourself. - Reach Out to Your Own Family
Just because I’m the mom doesn’t mean I’m responsible for keeping in touch with your parents. If you want them to know what’s happening with the kids, take the initiative. - Think Before You Speak
Expressing feelings is great, but not everything needs to be said out loud. Comments like, “Mom, you look tired,” or “This lunch is gross,” aren’t helpful. Keep some thoughts to yourself! - Let Me Sleep
If my eyes are closed, I’m likely sleeping. Unless there’s a serious issue, give me the space to recharge. Your well-being depends on me being well-rested.
As we step into the new year, let’s focus on improving as a family unit rather than just as individuals. It’s important to recognize that parenting is a shared responsibility, and every member of the family plays a role. So, take a moment for yourself, but also consider how your actions affect those around you. And remember, you’re doing a fantastic job even when it feels overwhelming!
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Happy New Year, and let’s make it a great one together!