I stumbled upon this nursery recently, and let me tell you, it was immaculate. The color scheme? A dreamy palette of beige, white, and a soft blush pink. There was pastel bunting adorning the window, a plush rocking chair that looked like it was plucked straight from a design magazine, and a crib that matched everything flawlessly. The lighting in the photos was just right, casting a warm glow that made it feel even more enchanting. It was like this room had transcended from the realms of Pinterest to reality. I paused during my early morning scroll through Facebook, chuckling at the new parents and their creative endeavors. But then, out of nowhere, jealousy hit me like a freight train.
After all, she had a crib. We didn’t have one, matching or otherwise. We knew from the get-go that our little one would be co-sleeping with us, so we simply attached a co-sleeper to our queen-sized bed, which was more cluttered than cute. Our master bedroom was far from Pinterest-worthy—it was a chaotic mix of clothes strewn everywhere and a general sense of disorder.
When it came to baby preparations, we opted for cloth diapers instead of those adorable diaper cakes, and we skipped the baby shower altogether since our family lived miles away and our friends were all broke grad students. We even turned an old Ethan Allen wet bar into a makeshift changing table, but it was more about function than aesthetics. Nothing matched, especially not the secondhand rocker we snagged on sale. We just crammed baby gear into a yellow room that we didn’t bother to repaint, alongside a hand-me-down dresser and some Dr. Seuss decals.
I know we made the right choices for our family. I’m not one for Pinterest-perfect plans, and the thought of spending money on matching bedding sets filled me with dread. But there’s still a part of me that mourns the absence of that picture-perfect nursery and the idealized version of pregnancy I always imagined. Unfortunately, that grief often manifests in a fierce envy. Those pristine nurseries make me seethe, and diaper cakes? Let’s just say they make me a tad stabby.
My pregnancy certainly didn’t resemble a Pinterest board. I dealt with nausea and battled prenatal anxiety, often feeling overwhelmed while sipping Chick-Fil-A sweet tea. With my midwife urging me to manage my blood sugar, I couldn’t find that elusive “pregnancy glow.” And I know I’m not alone in this experience. A quick Google search reveals countless articles about the struggles of pregnancy, including the fact that between 14% and 23% of women may experience some form of depression during this time. That’s a staggering number of women who are not exactly focused on perfecting a nursery, let alone being the center of attention at a baby shower.
As the clouds of anxiety and depression faded or were treated, I found myself holding my baby and navigating this new life. I’d see those gorgeous Pinterest nurseries, and a part of me would wonder, “Why didn’t I do that?” The radiant glow of the other expectant moms seemed like a taunting reminder of everything I felt I missed out on. While I understood that the neatly arranged toys and coordinated colors were mostly for show, I still couldn’t shake off the feeling that I had no theme or color scheme at all.
But here’s the truth: Life isn’t the curated highlight reel we see on social media. That pristine nursery will soon be sullied by diaper blowouts, spit-up, and other messes that come with parenthood. The mom may dress her baby in a picture-perfect outfit, only to have them ruin it in seconds. It’s a beautiful mess that unites us all.
Yet, despite knowing this, I can’t help but feel wistful about that Pinterest nursery. It represents that moment when parenthood seems like a dream come true: the gentle kicks of a baby inside you, the visions of tea parties and mother-daughter outings. Some of us were lucky enough to experience those moments, while others were not. And it’s perfectly okay to feel a pang of envy, even when it’s wrapped in discomfort and pain. Remember, that envy is a reflection of your own journey, not just the orderly nursery you see online.
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In summary, it’s natural to feel envious of those perfect nurseries, but remember that everyone’s journey through parenthood is unique, messy, and beautifully imperfect.
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