Dear Mother,
I can only imagine the complexities of your feelings. While my children are grown and don’t have a stepmother, your kids are still young, and they have me as their stepmom. We haven’t truly met; our paths have crossed, but our conversations have been nonexistent. I understand that you might question whether I’m a good caregiver. Do your kids feel safe when they’re with me? Sending them off to our home during weekends or holidays must be a challenge for you.
What I Want You to Know
I care deeply for your children. They are truly incredible, and you’ve done an outstanding job raising them. Sure, they can be a handful now and then, but that’s part of being kids. I love them as if they were my own. I take the time to cook their favorite meals and cater to their sometimes-picky preferences. I help them wash out the conditioner from their hair and provide toys for bath time fun. I tuck them in at night and kiss their foreheads, hold their hands when we cross the street, and soothe their injuries with kisses. I plan enjoyable activities and listen intently to everything they say. I cheer them on and praise their achievements. Whether it’s throwing the football with your son or painting your daughter’s nails, I’m fully engaged.
What I don’t do is discipline them. I believe that’s their father’s role, and I respect that boundary. I’m never unkind or dismissive, and I would never embarrass them or undermine your authority. I strive to ensure that my actions align with your wishes.
Your children express their affection for me, and I can see it in their eyes when they tell their dad they love me. But you are always in their hearts. At the flea market, your youngest points out items she thinks you’d enjoy. When I prepare chicken fried steak, they tell me how much they love it, but it never quite matches yours. At the park, your son might catch a glimpse of someone wearing a coat just like yours and mention it. They talk about you and sometimes feel homesick when they stay with us for extended periods.
I understand that co-parenting can be challenging, but remember the love you once shared with their father. You recognized his wonderful traits, which is why you chose to have children together (and I must say, they are beautiful!). After a breakup, it’s easy to focus on the negatives. However, he is a caring and devoted father who eagerly awaits their visits and feels a sense of loss when it’s time to return them to you. Daily, he shares stories about your kids, showering them with hugs, kisses, and declarations of love. He assures them it’s okay to love me, and it doesn’t diminish their love for you or their stepdad. These kids are fortunate to have four parents who care so deeply for them when many children don’t even have one.
So please, rest assured when they are in my care. I pledge to protect them as if they were my own. I promise to treat them with the same love I wish for my children. While my love can never replicate the bond between a mother and her kids, I assure you it’s significant.
Warm regards,
Stepmom
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Summary
The letter expresses a stepmother’s commitment and love for her stepchildren, reassuring their biological mother of her dedication to their well-being. She acknowledges the challenges of co-parenting while emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and understanding among all parents involved.
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