There’s a popular saying attributed to Matthew McConaughey that resonates deeply: “The best thing you could probably do as a father is make sure your children see how you love their mother.” I can affirm the truth of this as a dad of three, especially coming from a background where family dynamics were less than ideal.
I vividly recall the day my own father left my mother. The memory is etched in my mind: my mother sat in the family SUV, tears streaming down her face, while my father hurriedly packed his bag. The sounds of slamming doors and muffled sobs left an indelible mark on my heart. I never want my kids to witness something so painful or question their father’s love for their mother.
A challenge I face, along with many fathers who grew up in the ’80s, is the normalization of fathers walking away from their families. This has left me unsure about how to be the best husband and father I can be. I know I’m not alone in this struggle.
What I do understand is that how I treat my wife is reflected in our children’s lives. My kids are nine, seven, and two, and the older two are quite perceptive. They notice the moments we argue, and I can see how it affects them. Conversely, they also pay attention when we enjoy a date night together. When we return, they eagerly ask about our evening—where we dined, what we did, and if we both had a good time.
I make it a point to buy my wife flowers regularly, which has positively influenced our children as well. I want my son to witness this gesture because I never experienced it growing up. I want him to learn how to treat a partner with love and respect. For my daughters, I want them to expect that kind of affection in their future relationships. I want them to see a model of a healthy marriage, where love is evident.
Love is not a passive feeling; it’s an active choice. It involves countless gestures—text messages that say “I love you,” phone calls to check in, warm embraces, supportive actions, and date nights. It means stepping up to care for the kids when your partner needs a moment to breathe. Showing love requires compromise and understanding, even when it’s not easy.
Teaching our children about love also means modeling humility: saying “I’m sorry,” admitting when we’re wrong, and expressing our affection openly. My son often rolls his eyes when I tell him how much I love his mother, but I cherish that he knows it. That awareness creates a secure environment for him, knowing that both of his parents love each other and him.
If a father fails to show love for the mother of his children, what message is he sending? In my father’s case, it was one of indifference. It took years for me to discern the flaws in their relationship, but I’m determined to do better for my family.
Fathers, I assure you that your marriage and family life will thrive if you demonstrate love through your actions. It’s the vital lubricant for your relationship, the maintenance that keeps everything running smoothly. Your children need to see this love so they can feel safe and secure in their home.
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In summary, fathers play a crucial role in modeling love and respect in their family. By demonstrating affection for their partners, they not only strengthen their relationship but also provide a solid foundation for their children’s understanding of love and commitment.
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