There’s a recurring question in my household that seems to echo endlessly: “When are we getting a new sibling?” Spoiler alert: it’s not happening! But despite my firm stance, my kids don’t relent, and their persistent inquiries can be a tad overwhelming. Yet, as trying as my children’s questions about expanding our family can be, they pale in comparison to the unsolicited opinions I face from others.
What is it about parenting that grants people a free pass to pry into matters that really don’t concern them? Why does the decision to become a parent spark an avalanche of strong opinions from strangers and acquaintances alike? How can we put an end to the constant commentary regarding family size?
While innocent queries like “Is he your only child?” or “Are these all your kids?” can be acceptable, follow-up questions such as “Have you thought about adoption?” or “Are you against birth control?” cross the line into intrusive territory. It’s simply none of our business how many children a family chooses to have, whether their home is bustling with kids or rather quiet. Often, there are deep emotional complexities behind those choices.
Take my friend, for example. She has one child, and during deliberations about expanding their family, she received a cancer diagnosis. After numerous rounds of chemotherapy and a long-term tamoxifen regimen, her hopes of having more children were dashed. The questions and comments she faced felt like a constant reminder of her heartache.
These instances aren’t isolated; they reflect a broader issue. Strangers feel entitled to provide unsolicited family planning advice, while online discussions often devolve into critiques over family size. Conversations about the “ideal” number of children have become commonplace, blurring the lines between supportive dialogue and judgmental commentary.
Here’s a thought: how about we stop commenting on family sizes altogether? Let’s refrain from trying to convince couples without children that they should procreate. Let’s not tell parents of only children that their kids are missing out on something special. Let’s stop suggesting that those with larger families require a lesson in birth control. And why not quit imposing our opinions on others entirely?
Families come in diverse shapes and sizes for myriad reasons. We can never truly grasp the intricate emotions tied to someone’s choice about family size, whether that family consists of two, three, or ten members. Who are we to judge such deeply personal and often painful decisions? Perhaps our curiosity stems from a nosy nature or an attempt to validate our own choices.
If we could shift our focus away from scrutinizing others, we might just find comfort in our own decisions.
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In summary, let’s embrace the diversity of family sizes and respect the personal choices that come with them. After all, family is what we make of it, and that should be celebrated, not scrutinized.
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