Updated: September 10, 2023
Originally Published: November 9, 2016
As parents, we often find ourselves in the difficult position of explaining complex and distressing events to our children. In the wake of an election that has left many feeling disheartened and confused, we are faced with the challenge of addressing issues like bullying, discrimination, and division. How do we convey to our kids that certain behavior—like bullying or excluding others based on their race or religion—is unacceptable? We’ve all said that “love trumps hate,” but when the results come in, those words can feel hollow.
Friends have gone to bed fearful for their future, and many children are looking to their parents for answers. How do we explain that a significant portion of our country supports a leader with a history of xenophobia and misogyny? It’s hard to reassure our little ones that everything will be okay when we ourselves are grappling with uncertainty.
News anchor Lisa Smith articulated the emotional turmoil many of us felt as we tucked our children into bed. “Being a parent is particularly challenging right now,” she said. “You tell your kids not to be bullies, to embrace diversity, and to work hard—yet here we are, faced with an outcome that contradicts those values.” It’s a difficult moment for many in our nation, especially for marginalized communities who now feel more vulnerable than ever.
Imagine being a Muslim American or an immigrant awaiting a green card; the fear and anxiety must be overwhelming. We must empathize with those who feel displaced in their own country. Last night was painful for many of us, a stark reminder of how complacent we may have been in believing that progress was guaranteed. I took my daughter to vote yesterday, thinking we were part of a historic moment.
As Lisa noted, “The newly elected leader has a responsibility to reassure all citizens, especially those he has marginalized.” When you call for taking the country back, it alienates those who feel unseen. We must strive to create a narrative that includes everyone, rather than one that sacrifices some for the sake of others.
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In conclusion, while times may seem daunting, it’s crucial to engage in open conversations with our children about the world around them. We must encourage them to hold onto their values of kindness and acceptance, even when faced with adversity.
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